Grrrr

Cut her off. End of. I have been there, done that, got the T-shirt. No-one needs friends like that.

Last edited by clare12369 (08-16-2008 20:37)

If you dont trust this girl you shouldnt be friends, obviously you see things way too different and that is affecting the way she is behaving with you. So just take a break from this friendship, you shouldnt be worried for someone who is more worried in pretending than in being your friend.

take some big space out. i mean maybe tell her what you think first, but usually they wont listen and will have to bare the brunt of their actions before they realise. tell her if she needs you youll be there for her but apart from that, if she stays this way you dont want to have to watch her crash and burn and end up following her down.

i had a friend who people thought was really cool, only she didnt speak to me in school coz i wasnt. she didnt ignore me or anything like that either. despite the fact she was naturally funny she decided she needed to impress some older townies she thought were cool and played a joke on me for their amusement. it wasnt that bad but i was pretty disappointed in her intent. i didnt really hang out after that. talked occasionally and that was it. she ended up getting kicked out of school and now i believe she has a baby. before the baby she saw me in town and started reminiscing about old times and how much she loved it and thought about it. thats whats really sad; she was happy to give up someone she could actually trust and cared for just to try and raise social status down a road that nobody even really respects or does anything good for her. i guess now she will hve to learn to be less self orientated. i must say shes the least maternal person ive met, and pretty childish (in a nice way actually) i guess you need to tell her the consequences and leave it at that.

people like that will always do what they thinks cool however pathetic it is when you get past school. unless you think you could get her out of it then leave her to it. itll be too painful to watch.

if you mention it to her she might finish the relationship for you. it depends. if she really means something to you then sure. tell her like what i said. youll be there for her if she needs a shoulder but you arent going to play around with her games and hang out with her whilst shes being this way. its not pleasant. if she has some reason for behaving this way then she might tell you. it doesnt have to be forever. you just need to distance ourself so that what she does doesnt affect you anymore

If  you want to talk with her go ahead and remind her that you have been very supportive, and that even though you know she lies about her way of life you have been there for her, and you dont think its fair to behave like that with you. Tell her you want to be her friend but you cant because of the way she is acting.

You need to talk to her about it!!
When I was about 13 I had this friend that kept lying about stuff because she wanted attention... but not just little lies, it was stuff like "my stepdad raped me and I think I might be pregnant".
So we took her to the school counsellor and had a good long talk, asked her to stop lying,  and tried to sort it out. In the end our friendship ended but at least we tried!!
Tell your friend that she should stop making up stories to try to be cool because she will get found out!
But if she keeps acting like that then I think you should just end the friendship.