My ex has been messaging me :|

Zurkee · 08-01-2008 21:06

Okay basically my ex has contacted me again on bebo a year or so after we split up. We were together for a year and a half and were supposed to get engaged blah blah but we were like seriously incompatible it was like there was only some chemistry and not much compatibility and after huuuge arguments we split up. A few months afterwards we met up again and I gave him another chance (he cheated and took drugs at the time) but he decided he wasn't interested hein
So now he's added me on bebo as my profiles private and he can clearly see I'm seeing somebody else as my other half and is saying he has to talk to me about something important urgently. He refused to mail me it and wants me to call him? Should I or shouldn't I? I'm deadly curious...curiosity killed the cat, I know.

Guys what do you think?

Kjnz · 08-01-2008 21:41

Ok, i would say forget about him. What he has to say isnt likely to be anything important.
I had the same thing with one of my ex's, who cheated on me and poop.I did give in and talked to him after we hadnt spoken in like 6 months and all he wanted was to say that he was sorry.Which was a waste of time because he was only saying because he wanted to feel better about himself and sort out his kama. And this just made me even madder at myself for getting into a relationship with a person that selfish.
I would say that your guy might nw be feeling the guilt but i would say leave it.
If he has something important to say tell him to put it in writting but dont waste time talking with the guy.
I say focus on ya new beau

CARCRASHbimbo · 08-01-2008 21:44

tell him absolutely not. If it really is that important he'll end up telling you by email if you absolutely refuse to let him call you.

ButteredCracker · 08-01-2008 22:59

its a trap

Alebueno00 · 08-02-2008 00:43

TELLL HIIMM NOOO!

Michelle858b · 08-02-2008 02:03

Depends, how often do you need to make a mistake before you learn your lesson?

Gina · 08-02-2008 05:24

Don't !

Zurkee · 08-02-2008 12:45

michelle858b wrote:
Depends, how often do you need to make a mistake before you learn your lesson?

Haha that cracked me up fou rire
Sometimes qwuite a few, but with him I've done that a few times so I guess lesson learnt sourire
Decided to leave him alone to it content3
(_!_)...trap for what?

Firefly007 · 08-02-2008 13:10

Trap to draw you in with what little appeal he seems to have?

CARCRASHbimbo · 08-02-2008 13:12

Hey glad you've decided to leave him to it wink I think you've made the right decision smile

Champagne Angel · 08-02-2008 19:17

I dunno, what if he's got an STI and wants you to get yourself checked out?

Zurkee · 08-02-2008 22:15

Champagne Angel wrote:
I dunno, what if he's got an STI and wants you to get yourself checked out?

Lmao...good point yikes yikes I hope youre joking about that lol he really got around
Edit: If you're trying to hint that I gave him something he's the only guy I've dated before the current one tongue

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LilCuteBimb · 08-02-2008 22:24

Nononono, If it was so important he may just mail it! big_smile

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CARCRASHbimbo · 08-02-2008 23:23

LilCuteBimb wrote:
Nononono, If it was so important he may just mail it!

I agree, if it was an STD he would surely email you.

Champagne Angel · 08-03-2008 16:33

CARCRASHbimbo wrote:
LilCuteBimb wrote:
Nononono, If it was so important he may just mail it!
I agree, if it was an STD he would surely email you.

Ohh, good point.

I'm thinking more along the lines of whatever he has to tell you, he may not want a carbon copy (is that the right word) of what he has to say - like he doesn't want it to be replicated or shown to anyone else.

And for the record, I'm not into joking with total strangers about personal, sensitive issues, especially when it comes to making digs at them. I'm not making any judgements about either of you, in a sexual relationship, that's a possibility is all. :]

Zurkee · 08-03-2008 18:24

Okay I hope he mails it. It's not like I want to talk to him but I'm deadly curious tongue
You guys (ellie and carcrash) have good points lol
Ellie I didn't take it in a bad way what you said smile
Fair point about the copy he prefers to argue down a phone rather than text because that text can be shown etc.

CARCRASHbimbo · 08-03-2008 20:03

Urgh, even phone's aren't 100% safe now! But that's another matter...and your ex probably isn't as paranoid as me! lol
I'm really sure if it's anything important he'll crack and send you an email. wink

Champagne Angel · 08-03-2008 21:55

CARCRASHbimbo wrote:
Urgh, even phone's aren't 100% safe now! But that's another matter...and your ex probably isn't as paranoid as me! lol
I'm really sure if it's anything important he'll crack and send you an email.

Oh ya, I think that's true, and you won't have the risk of being rang up at 2am, in the hope of a booty call.

And yeah, I've got a little 'record' feature on my mobile phone :0

Zurkee · 08-06-2008 22:45

Omg! I have the record feature too! yikes
His sis is coming over tomorrow smile (our families our friends lol) maybe she would say something, but I'm not stupid enough to ask big_smile (I went thru this stupid phase lol)

Champagne Angel · 08-07-2008 01:37

Oh, so they're close siblings then?

Otherwise it would be a little weird that you're the last to know. That is if we're assuming it's involving you.

Princessasi · 08-07-2008 16:44

if the thing he wants to tell you is so important why doesnt he just call you!
this might just be a away for him to talk to you again...proberly because he miss's you

Pale Buttercup · 08-07-2008 17:07

Hear him out over the phone that way you have the power to end it at any time.

but my main advise is to remember that the best indicater of the future is to look at the past.
Do not go back!

Zurkee · 08-07-2008 23:00

In a nutshell:
Nothing interesting with his sister about him, had a good time though
He got my msn today and asked about my other half (which is my newer ex, we split up last night sad )
Asked me about April Fools Day when he was grovelling to get me back because I knew for sure he had cheated (girls showed me evidence) and then we ended up arguing (when you're trying to say sorry you don't throw the cheating issue back in my face ) so I got annoyed and saidI too had cheated on him (but I hadn't obviously, it had the desired effect though he felt very...um...threatened lol)
So now he wants to meet up to "chill" (don't think it's a booty call in disguise but if it is he can get 2 tight slaps) so I gave him my number as he lost his on holiday so I gave it but it's not too bad if things turn sour because I change my number regularly (whenever I think I've found a better network deal)
Oh and he said he missed me...but then he can be a pathological liar so I'm keeping my head screwed on.
Or maybe I just want the satisfaction to turn him down like he did to me
Ughh I feel so confused I wouldn't have even considered changing my mind again unless I split up with taz.

EDIT: Glad to say there was no mention of STI's. Phew!

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Champagne Angel · 08-09-2008 00:09

Woo!

Herpes free!

Pale Buttercup · 08-09-2008 00:19

good for you am glad everything is ok, don't go back though you can never get ahead in life if you continue to go backwards

sorry about your latest X

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