Self Harm

Yeah it's something like that, absolutely loads. It actually made me feel better, cos when I started i was just like, OMG I'm a freak. But then i realised I wasn't the only one doing it

I am a freak, but for different reasons

xoxo
Ruby

I never did, but I had several friends who did.  Unfortunately, apparently it can become addictive, so by the time I could talk and help one friend, it was almost an ingrained response to outside pain, even if it was really minor.  The other friend now has deep scars and many regrets.

Thanks for raising this topic & being so supportive.  No matter what the issue is, too many girls don't know that there are always people who are willing to listen and who really do care.

xBabycakes wrote:

I self-harm regularly, it's something i'm very familiar with. I do see councillors, but personally, talking doesn't help for me. I'm not a very good speaker, and whenever i try to explain a situation it always comes out the wrong way. Just makes it even more awkward really.

Hey,
Fortunately, I'm OK at talking to people, especially counsellors, but if you're not then there are loads of other ways you can let out your anger/frustration/sadness. When I started self harming, no one knew about it so I had no one to talk to. I started a diary, and that actually helped. Most of the time, I didn't even write in it, I just stabbed the page with my pen! But seriously, it is a good way of letting off steam. I know you've probably heard this from your counsellor, but whenever my counsellor told me what I should do instead of the self harm, I'd be like "Well, you don't self harm, so how do you know how I'm feeling or if it's gonna work?". That's one of the reasons I started this topic, because I can actually say that it works. Of course, it won't for everybody, but it's good to at least try!

xoxo
Ruby

Anyone can PM me if they wanna talk in private!

i used to do it too, fortunaly a good friend of mine found out about it and she really helped me
it was strange, 'cause every time i did it, i wanted someone to find out,
but at the same time i was scared that someone would know so i tried my best to hide it

but for me it really helped to talk to someone about it, to let it al out
it's sad that people think so strange of people who selfharm, they think they only do it to seek attention of because they are 'emo'.... that's not true!! (just to make that clear )

i started self harming when i was 12 it started kinda by accident someone hit me and i felt that pain was all i was worth i self harmed till i was 16/17 i still have urges but not enough to do it again thankfully i have two beautiful kids now and they se me right lol they make me a thousand times over happy as does my lovely partner i can understand what xbabycakes means about not being able to talk it out i used to hide my cuts and stuff coz i didnt want help and i didn want anyone to know but when i met my partner he self harmed and it affected me in a big way i had to help myself to help him i couldnt though and we helped each other through it in the end i saw counsellors too and had to stay in hospital but nothing it worked counselling just isnt the right option for some people i think. its hard to say how to stop pople doing it because it totally depends on the person

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quite literally, saved my life.

Thank you for the information and caring

Lilycerise wrote:

xBabycakes wrote:

I self-harm regularly, it's something i'm very familiar with. I do see councillors, but personally, talking doesn't help for me. I'm not a very good speaker, and whenever i try to explain a situation it always comes out the wrong way. Just makes it even more awkward really.

Hey,
Fortunately, I'm OK at talking to people, especially counsellors, but if you're not then there are loads of other ways you can let out your anger/frustration/sadness. When I started self harming, no one knew about it so I had no one to talk to. I started a diary, and that actually helped. Most of the time, I didn't even write in it, I just stabbed the page with my pen! But seriously, it is a good way of letting off steam. I know you've probably heard this from your counsellor, but whenever my counsellor told me what I should do instead of the self harm, I'd be like "Well, you don't self harm, so how do you know how I'm feeling or if it's gonna work?". That's one of the reasons I started this topic, because I can actually say that it works. Of course, it won't for everybody, but it's good to at least try!

xoxo
Ruby

Anyone can PM me if they wanna talk in private!

thankyou for your advice, i've taken it on board. I used to write a diary, up until my mother found it and confronted me. That was absolutely horrible, and that put me off writing diaries for life. Yeh, i also see counsellors for my ED, and i often sit there thinking "you don't know what its like" "you don't know what pain i go through". They think they know everything at that place, it's not fair.

i agree with all the posts on here too many people judge those who have self-harmed as being silly immature etc and just attention seeking and they dont realise what really goes on underneith, to me pain was my relief and my escape and it worked to an extent i would fell relieved but then lousy but it was hard to stop once you have started it never really goes away it will always be with you i think about it but would never do it again but its still there with me and when i see my scars i feel so guilty as i never want my children to go down that road as self-harm is the worst addiction ever im also free for anyone to pm me about anything even if you just having a bad day and need to get stress out i almost always have my computer logged in so anything just msge me

i did the same thing, all the pain was inside me, i couldn't get rid of it, i try to talk to my parents and my friends about my problems they didn't listen, i was so angry that i cut myself on the wrist, when i cut my wrist i felt all the pain was kinda of disappearing

i used to self harm and people at school found out(this was about a year ago)
i remember one boy in particular started calling me an emo but at the same time he was really interested in why and how i did it but i suppose thats just a boy thing

i dont know quite how i managed but i did give it up
the thing is though it is so addictive
and people dont understand that the pain makes you feel better

it seems that self harm is a dont go there topic
and more people need to speak out

if anyone would like to talk PM me and i would be happy to help

Last edited by LolaLoveheart (07-29-2008 21:24)

i reckon you should take that link down because of the younger users here and its pretty sick a. Nicci  Edited to note link has gone. phew. It werent pretty!

Last edited by Nicci-ashley (07-31-2008 14:35)

It's so good to see people talking about such a sensitive topic maturely and seriously. I've never self harmed, but my brother did it for years and may still do it. A lot of people dismiss it as attention seeking - to me there's a big difference between attention seeking and a cry for attention. As someone said (sorry can't remember who), you often want people to find but don't want them to at the same time. It can be very hard to talk to someone, especially when you feel like everyone is the enemy. Well done on being able to discuss it without it turning nasty like some of the other contraversial topics around here.