who has been upset by street harassment and catcalling?

paraphanelia wrote:

CARCRASHbimbo wrote:

paraphanelia wrote:

ha, i find it funny because i wear headphones and they STILL talk and whistle. geesh people, take a hint.

however i do find it disturbing when they try to approach me or, god forbid, try to touch me. i threw a fit both times that happened and scared them off. the vicious look on my face when i walk down the street usually discourages people to even look twice at me.

There really is no getting through to some guys. When I was at uni I got lots of unwanted attention, much of it from foreigners. I think in some countries there is a different attitude towards approaching women.

well we do have an abundance of actual bimbos who do enjoy...street attention, let's call it. odd thing is, this happened to me in almost all countries i've been to.

and it's not like i wear short pink skirts or 7inch heels or huuuge cleavages (not accusing anyone, but they usually go for that type of girls). i usually wear black jeans and black tops, which are not exactly loose, but not THAT revealing either. can't win with these people...

I haven't been abroad much, but I've had problems with guys from around the world and British guys too (but mostly when they were drunk). Some countries are more promiscuous/ flirtatious/ forwards...whatever you want to call it. When my friend was on holiday in one country when she was 14 going for a bike ride with her parents, cars were slowing down and 20 year old guys were shouting stuff like "hey sexy!" at her, in front of her parents when she was 14!

In another country (I'm not saying which countries these are because I don't want to offend anyone) she would be in a nightclub with her friends (she was 18 by this time) and old men would come up to her saying "You will be my wife, and my mother will teach you how to cook". That's not an offer, that's a command! Some countries don't have as good rights for women as Britain and the US do.

BTW, experience has taught me it doesn't matter what you wear. I have worn my dad's jumper (that goes down to my knees) and scruffy combat trousers and still been stared at for minutes on end by one creepy guy.

Another day I was wearing a big winter coat that went down past my knees, I had bloodshot eyes and no make-up on, and still my bf caught a guy checking me out! Being checked out in a subtle way like that didn't bother me too much BTW, but I did think it was odd!

It just goes to show that you shouldn't feel so intimidated by these guys that you stop wearing pretty clothes, because it won't help!

Last edited by CARCRASHbimbo (08-07-2008 09:35)

Yes, it's really irritating. I was at a mail when I was a preteen (and well it was that period of awkwardness) and I ended up getting barked at by boys well into their higher teens early twenties. I was only 11 people good lord!
But more recent I've been honked at, whistled at, had many people call out to me along the lines of "Hey baby" and what not. These are not so bad considering I'm out of my awkward preteen years and well into my twenties.
But not more then two months ago I was outside at work on my cell, when I actually had a nasty unwashed creepy guy approach me and actually asked for sex. I don't work at a wh*** house, I don't dress like I do, I don't work any where near a strip club or the such. I was in a suit for crying out loud. It was creepy and my husband still asks me on occasion if I'm doing ok. (In regards to my mood/behavior changing for the oddest reasons)

as an add on edit.. I agree dressing down doesn't help any. I've worn grungy pants, sweeter, hoodie and combat boots. Still got those cat-calls.

Last edited by Black Dahlia (08-12-2008 07:15)

I'd punch too, but I'm so weak it'd be pretty laughable! Administering slaps is the best option for me.

If I got into any real trouble I wouldn't hesitate to fight very dirty: biting, scratching, kicking where it hurts etc.

lol, I know! It's so easy to end up picturing the person you're talking to on the forums as looking like their avatar! lol

Kitty4729562910565 wrote:

last week a little boy shouted at me across a street that he had a massive penis that was big enough to...

i was in a nice neighborough hood and the boy cant have been older that about 10 or maybe 11. looking back i probably should have said something, but i was so shocked and embarassed, especially because it was a little kid, that i just ignored him and carried on walking. i hate when any men shout at me on the street, but the fact that this kid was so young made even stranger. I wasnt scared by the little boy now, but in 10 years he'll be an adult. if a grown man said the same thing to me i would be really nervous that it was some kind of threat about attacking me.

i have a little brother who is 9, and there is no way he would use that kind of language (especially to a stranger). it made me wonder where the little boy in the street learnt that shouting at me was okay.

I was walking through a neighbourhood with my bf when when a 7 year old boy shouted "hey sexy" at me! 

My bf didn't know what to do for a second, if it had been someone older that had shouted that at me while he was with me, he'd have sorted them out....but a kid? What do you do?
We both just ended up walking off without saying anything, feeling a bit disturbed.

Last edited by CARCRASHbimbo (08-12-2008 10:04)

I usually wave sign language back at kids.. like stick to W*nking... they can't imprison me for that!

I've had an 11 or 12 year old saying some rude things to me... I'm older or as old as his own mother!!!

I find it extremely disrespectful and it's belittling and degrading to women.

I take it as a compliment. I work hard in my morning routine to look pretty for the day.

My issue is I ride my bike to work and home again, so most of the cat calls or comments that I receive are while I am on my bike. As a cyclist in a city with INSANE drivers who don't know their a** from their steering wheel, it is extremely upsetting to me when people do this.  I am trying to concentrate on NOT getting hit, and my nerves are already rattled because on any given day there will be at least one idiot that almost hits me.  The last thing I need is some hormonal jerk off telling me that I look good.  I really don't give two *expletives* how I look so long as my head isn't splattered against the pavement thanks.

P.S Carcrashbimbo, you seriously have one epic lady there hahahaha.  I love your bimbo so hard.

Last edited by tikachu (08-16-2008 18:02)

it usually bothers me.... the only time it doesn't is when i used to go out jogging in the morning. a little car honk  and in my head i'm like "u know it."

I think that if a chick purred at me I would just find it hilarious (unless I was on my bike of course.)  I think in that situation, it is not about sexual attraction so much as being able to appreciate the beauty or sexiness of another woman.  I think that is awesome!  Women seem to put a lot of pressure on themselves and others, so I think it is great when someone can just embrace someone else for their individual beauty.

Last edited by tikachu (08-17-2008 03:28)

TrixieB wrote:

lol of course, not on the bike

trust me, it is scary where I live.  Haha

ok, i think i got my 1st non-offensive one... well sorta. in the situation.

guy walks past a man in a hat "nice hat mate", past me "nice hair mate" *winks* past guy just been to starbucks *nice coffee mate*.

probably the only time i didnt feel insulted or discriminated by it at all.

probably i should still be a little wary that someone felt they had the right, but in all honesty it was funny. doesnt change the seriousness of the rest of these things.

anchoredwunderlust wrote:

i think lincoln is just odd...

hey you over there
whats it like to have no hair
is it warm? is it cold?
i dont know coz i aint bald


0_0

apparently notts is far worse!

I'm a bit confused as to what this has to do with it 

I don't really get much attention on the street...I'm not very good looking. I used to walk to school every day and the only attention I got was from these 10 year old boys who thought it was funny to harrass me (including throwing eggs and stuff some days) but presumably were going to grow out of it. Then I started walking with a friend sometimes, she was blonde and a lot curvier than me, and suddenly we were beeped at by cars every day.

I've been harrassed in clubs by men too drunk to notice my lack of good looks though. Men who don't seem to realise why on earth you'd have an objection to them feeling you up. Eurgh.