who has been upset by street harassment and catcalling?

Yes.
Its so... ggrrr, i dont have words for that, is annoying being in the street, with my friends walking and hear those words.
Beeping with a car, screaming, sometimes touched. It makes me feel so bad, sometimes i dont want to go out by that reason.

The society is turning gross.


"alright, well i shall start with saying for me its usually negative. that or being beeped at by cars. when its positive i assume its sarcastic and it makes me feel guilty or wrong for being around, or wearing this or that"

I agree with you

It really annoys me when I get beeped at by cars and lorrys while I walk along the road And builders are the worst for cat calling!!

I Hate it!!!
I'm quite a shy person anyway, but when fellas start whistling or cat calling I just wish the ground would open up and swallow me!
It totally turns me off going out on my own, I just don't feel safe.
I wish I could just shrug it off as I've seen others do.
But - Im just not thick skinned enough.
I wish these losers would wake up and realise that yes there may be a small few who appreciate their "compliments" but most of us would rather thy kept their comments to themself.

LadiiEva wrote:

I really don't mind it if someone is driving by in a car and beep the horn or shouts something out the window as long as they keep going and don't stop I don't mind. What I don't like is if I'm walking by my self on a quite street and some guy pulls up next to me and starts talking to me and when I don't respond he gets nasty (which has happened to me a lot). And I hate it when I'm walking and a car slows down behind me and the occupants are staring at my butt. I get so frustrated with people like that. I use to be scared to go to leave my house when I was younger because there were always guys who were trying to touch me or talk to me. Since I was 13 I've had guys who were in their 30's gwaking at me. It really made me scared to go anywhere at all.

its sad we should feel we arent allowed out without  chaperon or after bedtime. lol.

we all have different tolerance for this stuff. some people convince themselves they like it but i think you have to be quite insecure to need other people's approval. the thing is that quite often the beeps and calls grow into the other stuff because its shown that one level of intimidation is acceptable.

its certainly a lot easier if they go away and you can just think *******s and carry on thinking what losers they are. its still enabling them to feel they have the right to do so though. i mean someone threw a 6 pint milk bottle out the window at me once. owch! lol. i THINK it was more based on "grunger!" hatred than misogyny but hey, jake looked like a girl from the back!

Kitty4729562910565 wrote:

ugghhh i hate it so much! but strangely, i dont get it half as much as i used to when i was 13/14. which is really wierd, because i definitely didnt look older than my age.

i always think its weird but its true! school uniform and the kid in them are common fetishes. its disgusting they would like to publicly announce it on the road and dont fear any repercussions. i often think if i grew up again knowing what i do now about this stuff i would take down their license plates. lol

I have severe anxiety problems and ALREADY feel that everyone is looking at me and judging me, even when it's completely illogical. So when I get obscene gestures or comments(flattering or otherwise!) I regret leaving my dorm at all. I have progressively worn more and more modest clothing as this  anxiety problem has gotten worse over time. So once when I ventured into wearing an old low-cut top I used to wear all the time and got some commentary, I went straight back to my room and didn't leave for the whole day.

Like some of you I was quite confused that filthy old men in white vans used to honk their horn at me when I was as young as 14, even when I was wearing ordinary clothes (jeans + tshirt).

I've had all kinds of things shouted at me, ranging from sexually inappropriate to very insulting. Really does show you how much tastes range. I'm 21, curvy size uk12 (US8), healthy weight, don't tend to wear "provocative" clothing but men can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves!

I've had the old "Get ur **** out for the lads", honking, people asking me to get in their car(?!?!?!!), I've been approached in the street by men telling me "you are very beautiful" and hanging round me until my boyfriend turns up (one particular guy keeps doing that to me). I've been made to feel very uncomfortable, scared and upset when walking home alone having been followed by men asking me first whether I'm married or have a boyfriend, then coming on to me in a very aggressive way. I may be overreacting but I don't want to get raped!

I've also had insults shouted at me in the street, which offend me equally. I do think that being cat-called is a form of insult, as it reduces you in the mind of the idiot who said it to a piece of meat that he thinks he has a right to violate. I especially hate being touched up in bars by someone you haven't even been introduced to. What do they think gives them the right to do that?

I do take things to heart a little too much because having anything shouted at me reminds me of being at school and being bullied (who wasn't?) but I find it incredibly impolite to impose on someone so personally.

Women don't do the same to men, do they?! What's wrong with getting to know someone, doing some flirting and seeing where it leads? Or am I just old-fashioned??

I'm not in the UK, but yes...this type of thing bugs me, and is quite scary at time. When people whistle, make crude gestures, and say things like "Id f*ck that" It's a scary thing to hear when a group of males talk about you in such a way, I'm a human being not a slab of meat.

I don't like being stared at by old men in their 40's and up. I would never get with them so don't stare.

Last edited by BeautyXRush (07-16-2008 02:41)

Lottie0093 wrote:

Like some of you I was quite confused that filthy old men in white vans used to honk their horn at me when I was as young as 14, even when I was wearing ordinary clothes (jeans + tshirt).

I've had all kinds of things shouted at me, ranging from sexually inappropriate to very insulting. Really does show you how much tastes range. I'm 21, curvy size uk12 (US8), healthy weight, don't tend to wear "provocative" clothing but men can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves!

I've had the old "Get ur **** out for the lads", honking, people asking me to get in their car(?!?!?!!), I've been approached in the street by men telling me "you are very beautiful" and hanging round me until my boyfriend turns up (one particular guy keeps doing that to me). I've been made to feel very uncomfortable, scared and upset when walking home alone having been followed by men asking me first whether I'm married or have a boyfriend, then coming on to me in a very aggressive way. I may be overreacting but I don't want to get raped!

I've also had insults shouted at me in the street, which offend me equally. I do think that being cat-called is a form of insult, as it reduces you in the mind of the idiot who said it to a piece of meat that he thinks he has a right to violate. I especially hate being touched up in bars by someone you haven't even been introduced to. What do they think gives them the right to do that?

I do take things to heart a little too much because having anything shouted at me reminds me of being at school and being bullied (who wasn't?) but I find it incredibly impolite to impose on someone so personally.

Women don't do the same to men, do they?! What's wrong with getting to know someone, doing some flirting and seeing where it leads? Or am I just old-fashioned??

dude you are NOT overreacting. you  have every right to take these things to heart. theyre treating you like youre on special offer and they want to see if they want you or not.

you have every right to be offended or worried. there is nothing wrong or prudish about that at all! being groped IS sexual harassment. so is the rest of it if is unwanted.

some women do the same back unfortunately, usually when drunk. however, most men arent in fear that the women might rape them, or attack them if they get the wrong response, or feel like they need to CROSS OVER the road or AVOID places just so it doesnt happen. sort of creates no-go areas for women.




its good to know numba1bimbx that you havent had anything negative, but it still means that guys are rating you. you arent offended by this but a lot of people are which is why id say if in doubt - dont. plus you never know. if you decided one day to say you didnt like it in as polite a form as youd like, i expect at least a couple would change their tune.



the point is that a lot of guys feel they have the right to assess your existence by whether or not they want to screw you. it also puts you in your place and asserts their dominance over you and the place you are in. now a lot of guys are just trying to be nice and think its flattering and want to meet people, but they still dont have the right to interrupt our lives and those ones dont realise what bad experiences so many people have had and that its intimidating. i think if you know people like that its good to try and explain it rather than to be mad at them.

as for the others... well on that site theres a link to a book about responses. also a lot of what people do back on the page.

anchoredwunderlust wrote:

LadiiEva wrote:

I really don't mind it if someone is driving by in a car and beep the horn or shouts something out the window as long as they keep going and don't stop I don't mind. What I don't like is if I'm walking by my self on a quite street and some guy pulls up next to me and starts talking to me and when I don't respond he gets nasty (which has happened to me a lot). And I hate it when I'm walking and a car slows down behind me and the occupants are staring at my butt. I get so frustrated with people like that. I use to be scared to go to leave my house when I was younger because there were always guys who were trying to touch me or talk to me. Since I was 13 I've had guys who were in their 30's gwaking at me. It really made me scared to go anywhere at all.

its sad we should feel we arent allowed out without  chaperon or after bedtime. lol.

we all have different tolerance for this stuff. some people convince themselves they like it but i think you have to be quite insecure to need other people's approval. the thing is that quite often the beeps and calls grow into the other stuff because its shown that one level of intimidation is acceptable.

its certainly a lot easier if they go away and you can just think *******s and carry on thinking what losers they are. its still enabling them to feel they have the right to do so though. i mean someone threw a 6 pint milk bottle out the window at me once. owch! lol. i THINK it was more based on "grunger!" hatred than misogyny but hey, jake looked like a girl from the back!

Also just a quick note, what if someone is not convincing themselves that they are flattered by the complements given? Some women and girls would be flattered by these calls and not just flattered because they are insecure about themselves but rather because they are confident in themselves that they look great.

If a woman has every right to be offended and worried then she equally has every right to be flattered and pleased by compliments paid to her no matter what manner.

It's ok. I forgive ye

I think it depends on the nature of the attention - personally, I'm okay with being "checked out" or smiled at and so on because I do the same thing to males; it's moreso admiration than objectifcation of the opposite sex.

The calling out of "nice tits!" or whatever in public though is something else, it's embarassing and offensive. I'm personally waiting eagerly for the next time that happens for the pleasure of flipping them off.