What Do You Think Is The Right Age To Be Having Sex ?

i dont think there is a rite time its just whn you feel ready

Can we poll this?
I'd love to see the overall percentages and stuff!

I think also that you are ready when you feel ready. There is no age which would be perfectly right. I was 15 and I was ready for it, no regrets, no pain, no problems. I don't think I was too  young. But like I said, it's not same thing with everyone. Just don't do it only because someone else has done it, or someone is pushing you to do it. That would only give you bad memories, not beautiful and special ones which I hope you someday will get.

It depends on the people really. I'm guessing most people aren't ever ready to handle it the first time anyway. Only got one life, if it feels right -TRULY right- then go for it. I don't regret my first time, I still talk to the boy I did it with. But as with any choice, count your costs and benefits before taking action. If one does decide to take action below the age of 20/<insert-stable-life-age-here> then I'm not asking, I'm telling you to use protection.
Oh yeah, and always remember sex is the BEST way to ruin a good friendship.
I don't recommend it, but it's not my life. Do what makes you happy.

mangomoomica wrote:

i think it totally depends on thee individual!
i was 16 when i lost mine to a bf!
it felt soo right and came to us really naturally
it was both our first times

we have now broken up but still are best friends i have no regrets about him what so ever


my current bf lost his when he was 18 to me

so it really depends on the person

also when i was 15 i was dating a boy who was 21
he never tryed to pressure me into anything and alway said he would w8 untill i was ready!

luckly i realised what a mistake it was and found it rather sick it was for a 21 year old to be wth a 15 year old!
thankfully nothing came of that relationship

so wait untill you are personally ready and dont let anyone pressure you to do anything you dont want to
as it may seem right at thee time but you will more than likley regret it

Same i was 16 as well with my bf and i was so ready but you need to be ready for the consequences to. I feel pregnant at 17 and had an abortion. Both me and my bf new we wernt ready but we handled it and got through it. You need to no that with sex there are other things aswell and need to be mature enough to handle those

Wait until youre in a relationship with someone you trust, love, respect etc. I dont think its a matter of age (although I do think 14 is way too young). If you think you can handle the physical and mental feelings and are mature at 16 then why not.

Im 17 and i still aint done it
I have 19 year olds who aint done it. It just a matter of time. Just cos everyone else is having sex doesnt mean you need to jump into bed with some random guy/girl. I think when you KNOW your ready and your in a loving relationship then maybe.
There aint no right age, its just a matter of when your ready! though i dont suggest being 13 and deciding your ready or 14 for that matter. Maybe 15 at the youngest.

You know, I waited until I was 20 b/c I wanted to prove to my mom that I could graduate without a kid or an STD's (kind of gives you what type of opinion my good ol' Mom had of me, doesn't it??).  I got out of high school when I was 17, but still didn't have my own place to live or a job that I could support myself.  So, basically, since I couldn't support myself, I couldn't support myself and a baby.  Finally, at 20, all of things were present in my life and the timing felt right.  Here's the thing though -- every time  (before I got married) I had sex, I looked at it as "Ok, a baby might be on it's way after tonight". That made it very, very real to me... always.  And to me, that's how it should be looked at every time.  A baby might be here after this or I may need to get treatment for an STD after tonight.  If you keep all of that in mind, I think you'll wait for safer partners and you yourself will be safer.

Another thing though.  As someone said, the age of consent for sexual matters is different state to state and country to country.  Well, I currently live in South Texas.  In Texas, the age of consent is 18 and to me, this is a wonderful age.  Kids should at least finish high school before worrying about sex.  If you are having sex, you can't get pregnant.  If you don't get pregnant, there's no reason for you not to finish school.  It just makes it easier.  Plus, just remember that you body might be mature enough, but that doesn't mean that your mind is going to be mature enough the first time some boy has sex with you, leaves, goes off and tells his buddies and it gets spread all over school.  Oh, and after that, not only does HE not talk to you anymore, but the only people who do, just want to get in your pants because they heard you're fast.Just take your time and at least wait until high school is out for your own good, ok???  If you ever need to talk, pm mel

Shirl

To be really honest, I can't see the point in having sex until i'm ready to start a family - I know it sounds boring but even with the most protection it could still happen, and I don't want to be lugging a kid around unless I actually feel like i'm ready for one. Plus the idea of having sex these days is that everyone seems to do it before marriage and you never really hear about people, aside from young mothers, having babies when they don't want them but it happens all the time and I want to be at a point in my life where I could care for a child before I started having sex because at the end of the day that's the only thing sex is meant to be for, continuing the species.

mangomoomica wrote:

luckly i realised what a mistake it was and found it rather sick it was for a 21 year old to be wth a 15 year old!
thankfully nothing came of that relationship

xDDD
My boyfriend is 22 and I am 16.
The age gap doesn't really matter to me and I don't find anything similar to it "sick" unless the guy is trying to take advantage/manipulate the girl.
My parents like my boyfriend and don't care that he is older than me. It really depends on the individuals.

People get divorced all the time though. Married couples cheat and lie just like ones that aren't married. Just because you get married doesn't mean all the risks are gone.

Kat Izakari wrote:

Sancty wrote:

People get divorced all the time though. Married couples cheat and lie just like ones that aren't married. Just because you get married doesn't mean all the risks are gone.

Of course. Not saying the risks will be gone...and that just because you've only been with one person there can be no one else. I'm just saying that there is a sort of baggage that you carry with you...sharing something so intimate changes you. Once you've shared it with one person, sharing it again with someone else... 

I only say this because I am married to a man (the second person I've had sex with) my first --I still think of from time to time, even though I love my husband and know that my ex wasn't the one for me. It's a hard thing to overcome...your first. And those feelings/thoughts have huge effects on a marriage, and on a married couples sex life. (for women --the sexual experience tends ro be very mental/emotional)

I'm only trying to share my experience to a younger girl, who seems like she is asking for experienced advice.

Every person/situation is different.

I understand.

Ideally I want to only have sex with one person in my life for similar reasons, but I also don't want to wait until marriage.

i lost mine at 15, i regret it big time because he is an total jerk, and i was so young. i am now with my fiance of 10 months and we are extremely happy together, i wish i had saved it for him.