What Do You Think Is The Right Age To Be Having Sex ?

when you are ready is right
the age restriction is stupid! i know many 16 year old girls who are still afraid of boys =] it's something only the individual can really know and after thinking about it , and some people think they have the maturity to think about it properly but don't really ...haha, I'm going around in circles

when you are ready is the right age

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I think when you feel you're ready. But not until you're 16-18. 15, 14, 13 is waaaay to young. But of course, there are mature 15 yearolds out there. Still I think it's too young.

Another thing I think is important, is how YOU look at sex. If you're all for having it with the right person, and if it's very important for you and you want to have a good memory about your first time, then you should definitely wait til you meet a person you really love. But if you're like me and don't care and look at sex as just a thing to do, like brushing you teeth, then it shouldn't matter.
I was 16. It was nor good nor bad =P And I couldn't care less Although when I think about it now, I think I still was a kid. But what's done is done. You have sex at some point of your life anyway...

there is no right age its just when you feel ready. When i was 14 i thought i was ready and kept trying it with guys and did some other stuff im not proud of but when it came to sex i found myself really nervous and told the guy i didnt feel right. When i was 16 i had been with my boyfriend 2 months and suddenly i felt like it was the right time. I loved him and trusted hima nd we were neighbours and childhoos friends so i knew he was the right guy. I wasn't scared and it felt so right and i'd never regret it. We are still together now. You have to be absolutly ready and have no doubts and thats when you no its the right time.

There's no 'right age' to have sex.
It depends on the person.
But I can't imagine some 12/13 year old could be ready for that.
I think when you have sex on such young age, you'll regret it later.
People at that age usually don't have sex for the right reason.
They don't always love the person they have sex with, but they just want to know what it would be like.
In my opinion you should only have sex with some one you really love.

i think that the best age is min. 19/20. at that point your body was had a chance to fully mature and so has your mind. this is something that will stick with you. i lost mine at 8. i know what can happen if you do it too early. and yes some can do it befor then and mentally handle it. but lots end up geting hurt because they relize stuff to late. don't be in a hurry. haveing sex does not make a person grown up or happy. it can be fun yes. but know this i have had many partners and never has it been as good with any of them as it has with my husband ( and we waited till after we were ingaged to do anything). there is hot passionate sex which is fun every one and i while, there is sex which is never that filling, and then there is makeing love, and thats when it's your souls sharing in a physical bond. Making Love does not happen between two people, it happens to a loving couple whos relationship is strong enough to last the test of time. so if you plan on doing something realize what it is going to be. and that teenagers (no offense any one i was one not to long ago so i understand how you think) really don't have the emotional depth and matureity to experence love like that yet.

I'm 16, but i don't think i'm ready for it just yet.. i have no boy in my life now though, so that may chenge really fast I've been 'pushed' a bit with my last boyfriend, but i didn't do it, and i'm glad... i think also that you listen to your own feelings, not to his, it's something girls should be better at.. i'm sure glad i listen to myself... and that's the reason we broke up, because i didn't want to...

thank you..

My mate had sex at 14, and loads of people do.

If you think about all the 'partners' adults have it makes you think why you should lose your virginity to someone special. But i personally believe you should.

Do it when you want, never be pressurised, even if ya 50 (well maybe not 50)

And remember only a small minority of people get married and blah blah blah 2 the people they lose their virginity to.

(and to be clear i said a small minority not no one i am sure people do and are very happy and are so much more wiser and better than me for it )

When you're ready to deal with the concequences of babies, abortions,  infections, diseases and heartbreak, then have sex with someone you feel comfortable and secure with. Having sex just because your mates have isn't clever, like Kandi09 said.

there is no right age,its to do with who you are with and how you feel about them etc well thats what i think

retarf wrote:

the age is 18 in america and 16 here in britain, but of course that doesnt mean brits are any more sexually mature than americans! and it's not like you sprout responsibility spontaniously on your birthday

The age in America depends on individual states.  18 is the cut off where the Federal government pretty much says ok, enough is enough... they can have sex at 18.  But in many states it's actually legal at 16 as long as both parties are 16 and over and under 18 (basically 16 or 17).

There was something awhile back where the Federal government wanted to change it so that anyone who was over 13... and where they were no more than two years apart from each other in age but both still under 18 is ok.  I want to say that went through... but to be honest I'm not sure.

So basically, if your 13 and your partner is 15 then it's ok.  But if your 13 and your partner is 16 then it is not ok.  Or if you're 17 and your partner is 18 it is not ok.

They finally got it into their brains that younger people were having sex (whether good or bad, it's happening)... and wanted to make it more clear in the law books so there wouldn't be an uprising of people on the sex offenders list because some parents got a bug in their pants about their kids having sex.

It's a very interesting debate so far, and it seems like the vast majority of people agree that there really isn't a set age limit and that it really all depends on the people involved.  I have a cousin who had a kid at 13, she had used protection and was on the pill at the time (she had a smart mom)... but she still got pregnant.  It has effected her life both negatively and positively, but all in all, even she looks back at it and says that she was too young.

emj13 wrote:

another girl in my year lost it at 8 because of overactive hormones the worst part is it was to her cousin aged 14 at the time.

Hon, I doubt that girl wanted it.  If you are 8 and you have sex, it is because someone has raped you.

She may not feel like that is what happened, she may feel guilt; I don't know.  No one at 8 suffers from "overactive hormones" though.  I feel for this girl, I do.

To the creator of this thread:

It is my firm belief that if you have to ask if you are ready, you are not ready.  Before you have had sex, you should have *already* had a lot of serious discussions with your partner about sexual history, preferences, protection, and what to do just in case something happens with your protection.  If you can't come to an agreement about protection, why you're having sex and backup plans, that is a warning bell not to have sex with that person.

Most of what has already been said in this thread I agree with:  there is no right "age," no magic number, just a certain level of maturity and trust and love in a relationship.  Most people happen to reach this at around 17-19 in my mind, though I have met people who are in their 20's who do not have a responsible, safe, or emotionally sound attitude towards sex.  I am sure there are younger girls and boys who are ready, but I have yet to meet one IRL.

Nat's advice has been the best so far.

I hope you've gotten something out of this thread!