Girls, come ask our boys...

Yorkshireman · 01-19-2012 04:51

Alice Cullen100 wrote:
Long post.

It definitely sounds like he likes you. Unquestionably.

Yorkshireman · 01-19-2012 04:59

angelinachrow wrote:
Is appearance more important than personality?

Purely from a personal viewpoint... yes and no.

Which isn't especially helpful, so I should really explain myself.

If I don't find a person attractive, I won't desire a relationship with them. Doesn't matter how great I think their personality is.

Likewise, if a person has a personality which I dislike, I won't want a relationship with them, even if I think they're incredibly attractive. Casually, of course I most likely would, but nothing serious.

They're equally important to me, so far as lasting (ie more than a week) relationships are concerned. One will prevent it from starting, the other will prevent it from lasting.

But hopefully a few other chaps will provide their opinions as well.

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Friendsx · 01-22-2012 17:13

why do guys take so long to text back? -.- especially when they start texting you..then they suddenly stop replying!

Yorkshireman · 01-23-2012 03:15

friendsx wrote:
why do guys take so long to text back? -.- especially when they start texting you..then they suddenly stop replying!

Could be any number of reasons... but do remember girls do this too, not just guys.

He could be busy - texting does seem easy and quick but it's a huge distraction if you're trying to do something.
He could have a limited number of free texts/not be on a contract, and suddenly realise he's spending too much, and cuts down intentionally - probably less common these days as everyone seems to have unlimited texts now.
He could be trying to avoid coming across as too keen - quite a common one.

Those are the reasons I intermittently took/take ages to reply to texts, anyway.

Sammz1 · 01-26-2012 17:21

thanx luv sammz1 bisou

Sweetymary · 02-02-2012 21:59

Guys... I married A great guy that I love but sometimes... out of the blue I find myself thinking of my first love and how much we used to love each other... and I cant but imagine how life would have been with him
I dont know what to do...maybe im just nostalgic ...what do you think? Any advices please!?

Yorkshireman · 02-06-2012 05:53

sweetymary wrote:
Guys... I married A great guy that I love but sometimes... out of the blue I find myself thinking of my first love and how much we used to love each other... and I cant but imagine how life would have been with him
I dont know what to do...maybe im just nostalgic ...what do you think? Any advices please!?

Even if you're sat with the most beautiful woman in the world, the one at the next table still looks better...

It's an entirely normal thing to look at and imagine what might be, or in your case what might have been.

We all look back and wonder about old relationships to some degree I think, depending on how they panned out and ended. Can't really give advice specific to you because you're the only one who knows enough details for that, but it sounds like a standard case of 'looking back'.

So I wouldn't worry about it, everyone you know will have done the same at some point.

SmexxiLaur · 02-11-2012 08:42

Bar8ie wrote:
Ok this thread is old.. but if a guy still wants to help i really would appreciate it.

I've been in a relationship for 2 years and now planning the date of engagement.
6 months ago(which is still carrying on) my boyfriend is acting kind of controlling.. as advising me (more like telling me) what to wear, when to go out, with who to go out, time limit and etc, its not really to the point of abuse (i dont mean physical ofcourse) but its relly bothering me that he's attemting to control me..
Could anyone suggest what can he be thinking? is it some crack in our trust,? or is he showing his true colours after all this time? or its his way of being more carrying???
Anyone? plz?

This is abuse! My mum was in an abusive relationship when I was a kid, and this was how it started. If it goes any further I advise you stop the relationship - fast. Call the police if it goes further which I hope it won't Good luck!

Friendsx · 02-12-2012 20:02

what do guys actually think about virgins?

Yorkshireman · 02-13-2012 03:24

friendsx wrote:
what do guys actually think about virgins?

Generally positive things.

It's not really an issue though - I'd personally think it's just a tiny part of the girl's overall package. Certainly wouldn't go out with a girl just because she was a virgin.

Cakeycake · 02-17-2012 14:53

Hey,

I know I'm 14 blah blah immature anyway, I have a friend (same age as me) and this guy really likes her. He has asked her out three times and each time my friend has said no.
Just for a bit more info
-they have known each other since like year 2
I just wanted to know, what effect can that have on a guy, turning them down all the time?
I feel a bit bad for him sad

Yorkshireman · 02-18-2012 02:37

cakeycake wrote:
Hey,

I know I'm 14 blah blah immature anyway, I have a friend (same age as me) and this guy really likes her. He has asked her out three times and each time my friend has said no.
Just for a bit more info
-they have known each other since like year 2
I just wanted to know, what effect can that have on a guy, turning them down all the time?
I feel a bit bad for him

This seems to be my primary answer on this thread, but... depends on the guy. To try to provide a somewhat general statement, probably nothing more than a bit of self-esteem damage and a loss of confidence. Both of which will almost certainly pass with time.

And the first time would be worse. The rest, probably not so bad.

Funlover12 · 02-19-2012 02:35

cakeycake wrote:
Hey,

I know I'm 14 blah blah immature anyway, I have a friend (same age as me) and this guy really likes her. He has asked her out three times and each time my friend has said no.
Just for a bit more info
-they have known each other since like year 2
I just wanted to know, what effect can that have on a guy, turning them down all the time?
I feel a bit bad for him

Well i know i have no right answering this, seeing that im no guy, but i dont think it is hurting him much. Now if it were a girl, lets just say she wouldnt even try twice. Unless this guy is really sensitive, i think hes doing alright. He must really like her, and i think she is a fool for not liking him back
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Samii5 · 02-19-2012 10:57

This is amazing topic

Hanibel · 02-20-2012 04:38

So, I'm a flirt; I admit. I like guys, talking to them is fun, and I hate commitment. I could be flirting with numerous guys at the same time and not feel an ounce of guilt. I've never harbored any strong feelings for anyone though, yet I've had numerous relationships, all of which I've ended. Does this make me come off as "cold" or "a tease?"

ThE eMo GoD is BACK now · 02-20-2012 14:07

Hanibel wrote:
So, I'm a flirt; I admit. I like guys, talking to them is fun, and I hate commitment. I could be flirting with numerous guys at the same time and not feel an ounce of guilt. I've never harbored any strong feelings for anyone though, yet I've had numerous relationships, all of which I've ended. Does this make me come off as "cold" or "a tease?"

It makes you the female version of me. LOL It make you a choosy person and sort of a cold person and a slight player attitude. Well babe all I could stay is that you sooner or will find that someone your life is yearning for. sourire

Baby-Kie · 02-21-2012 00:49

Guys ... how many guys does a girl have to sleep with to be labelled a 'slut, slag, etc:' and why is it so different for guys? If a girl has sex with ten guys shes a hoe but if i boy has sex with ten girls hes like a massive player???

Dont know if this has been asked before lol

Yorkshireman · 02-21-2012 04:25

Baby-Kie wrote:
Guys ... how many guys does a girl have to sleep with to be labelled a 'slut, slag, etc:' and why is it so different for guys? If a girl has sex with ten guys shes a hoe but if i boy has sex with ten girls hes like a massive player???

Dont know if this has been asked before lol

He's a slag as well.

Or not... perhaps neither are. Or maybe both are deserving of respect.

The different descriptions used are down to the manner in which the generic male (if he exists outside TV and films) views sex. Much like farting. It's OK for a guy to fart, but if his girlfriend does it...

As for numbers... it's not the number that matters. It's a person's behaviour and attitude toward such things which makes the most difference in determining how other people will see them.

Hanibel · 02-21-2012 23:26

Baby-Kie wrote:
Guys ... how many guys does a girl have to sleep with to be labelled a 'slut, slag, etc:' and why is it so different for guys? If a girl has sex with ten guys shes a hoe but if i boy has sex with ten girls hes like a massive player???

Dont know if this has been asked before lol

Kingsley.

This should be sufficient.

KittyClouDz · 02-22-2012 19:47

Kellie Leah wrote:
IceGem wrote:
Kellie Leah wrote:
Ah the love word. ...

You'll know he loves you by the way he treats you, the way he talks to you. There really isn't a right time or a wrong time to tell someone you love them. If you feel it and you mean it then say it. Love is such a rare thing, so when you do find it with someone special, revel in it and cherish it. You never know when it will be stolen away.
Haha! I think I must have an exception to the rule. My fella told me he loved me after 2 weeks. Granted I had known him before, but only to have a drink with, not as a close friend or anything. I was out with the girls in a club, and a txt came through. It said "I really think I love you" I txt back saying you must be drunk! haha. Then he said "no, I'm not, it really is how I feel" so I said to him, if you really feel it then tell me in the morning and i'll know your not drunk and dont know what your saying. True to his word. The next morning I got that txt! Bless him. How cute. Haha.
I can't believe he texted you to tell you he loved you for the first time! I'm glad you thought it was cute. I'm not sure if any of my ex-girlfriends would have been as tickled by it as you were.

I definitely wouldn't be pleased if a boyfriend would confess his love for me over a text. yikes If he did, bless his heart, he'd be done. teehee.

KittyClouDz · 02-22-2012 19:48

Hanibel wrote:
Baby-Kie wrote:
Guys ... how many guys does a girl have to sleep with to be labelled a 'slut, slag, etc:' and why is it so different for guys? If a girl has sex with ten guys shes a hoe but if i boy has sex with ten girls hes like a massive player???

Dont know if this has been asked before lol
Kingsley.

This should be sufficient.

fou rire LOVED it!

Saad3 · 02-27-2012 09:13

girls are always have a good impression about that so girls can easily express their feelings in a good manner!

Krystal_9o1 · 03-01-2012 16:33

There is this guy who texts me often and I like texting him too but NOT every single day!! I mean we run out of topics and he always expects me to start a convo.... recently I had been super busy, I was taking part in various function and events and there were some family issues, so more often than not I would not be able to text him and i would say that I am busy so I might chat later but he became overly emotional about it and started saying that 'obviously I would be busy', 'you are never available', 'fine go' and stuff like that.... I tried to explain that I just didn't have the time and I didn't text anyone at that time and he started sending sending me all sorts of emotional messages saying that if i don't want to talk I should just say so, I don't consider him my friend anymore and things like that so I got super annoyed!! I started complaining to one of my bestie who is also his ex and told her to tell him that all this emotional stuff is annoying me so he got even more pissed thinking that she just wanted to create a rift between him and I so I sent him texts telling him that I told his ex to tell him that so now when I do message him or he messages me he constantly says 'if you don't want to talk it's alright' or 'you must be busy so i's okay'....

So i just want to know what is that guy's problem??? I never start texting people, he is the only one I start a convo with and he very well knows that so why is he being such a jerk??? I even apolozised to him so many times!

Friendsx · 03-02-2012 14:03

I was seeing this guy a while ago and recently we started talking again - a bit flirty but nothing major like before. Sometimes we chat on and off all day but then other times we can go a week without talking... i dont see it as a big deal because its just like we're friends but recently hes been texting me loads and acting really 'needy' which just annoys me hmm

So why does he sometimes not bother for a week then all of a sudden act needy & desparate? :s

Yorkshireman · 03-03-2012 06:22

krystal_9o1 wrote:
There is this guy who texts me often and I like texting him too but NOT every single day!! I mean we run out of topics and he always expects me to start a convo.... recently I had been super busy, I was taking part in various function and events and there were some family issues, so more often than not I would not be able to text him and i would say that I am busy so I might chat later but he became overly emotional about it and started saying that 'obviously I would be busy', 'you are never available', 'fine go' and stuff like that.... I tried to explain that I just didn't have the time and I didn't text anyone at that time and he started sending sending me all sorts of emotional messages saying that if i don't want to talk I should just say so, I don't consider him my friend anymore and things like that so I got super annoyed!! I started complaining to one of my bestie who is also his ex and told her to tell him that all this emotional stuff is annoying me so he got even more pissed thinking that she just wanted to create a rift between him and I so I sent him texts telling him that I told his ex to tell him that so now when I do message him or he messages me he constantly says 'if you don't want to talk it's alright' or 'you must be busy so i's okay'....

So i just want to know what is that guy's problem??? I never start texting people, he is the only one I start a convo with and he very well knows that so why is he being such a jerk??? I even apolozised to him so many times!

Bear in mind there are so many possibilities that I'm shooting at invisible pigeons here, so don't take this as the absolute authoritative reason. Just the one I consider more likely.

Some people just get like that, usually people who are either attracted to you or who consider you one of only a few friends, or consider you a very close friend. Typically, those who have a degree of reliance on your replies.

What he says could be down to a number of things, but most likely one of two possibilities. He's genuinely concerned about bugging you because he fears losing your friendship, and goes too far. Or, he's using the guilt-trip approach to encourage more replies.

There's obviously quite a gulf between those two, but it could be either. If it's one or the other, you'd probably be able to identify it.

Have you tried asking him to stop always saying it?

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