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ChapALapStick wrote:

lilmissarah311 wrote:

i like this guy that goes to my school and he likes me but he doesn't want to go out with me right now but wants to do stuff with me like we are going out. i don't know what i should do.

Don't do it... he is just using you!!!

thank you, im glad someone answered my question well sorta my problem i was having

actgirl wrote:

why do men (not saying all) bot care bout how their gf feels when comes to something they want (ie bf wants offroader but gf has worrys)

What’s so bad about a guy wanting an off road vehicle for sport? Sure they are dangerous, but life is full of danger.  He could just as easily get killed or hurt on the way to and from work.

I don't think your BF doesn't care about how you feel, I just think that he wants a toy and your concerns over him getting that toy only aggravate him into wanting it even more.  So you think he doesn't care about how you feel and he starts to feel like you're trying to control him and what he can or cannot do.  If your BF truly doesn’t care about how you feel, the real question is why are you still with a man that is insensitive to your feelings and needs?

Look, just level with him and tell him that you care about him and don't want to see him hurt himself, but that if he really wants his off-roader he should get it and be safe: wear helmets, protective gear, and not take unnecessary risks.  If you can’t bare the thought of being with him if he does hurt himself and let’s say paralyzes himself, let him know that.  It’ll give him something to think about and give you a get out of this relationship card if he does manage to break his neck.  I know it seems heartless and cruel, but if you layout your concerns and some of the drawbacks that would occur if he should seriously hurt himself that you are not going to be around anymore.  Just make sure to not sound like you’re threatening him or giving him an ultimatum, just be clear that you personally can’t handle the thought of him being paralyzed or seriously hurt on those scary off-roading machines.

I’ve had this debate from numerous GF's of the past.  I have a motorcycle and would personally find it agitating when my GF would tell me not to pop wheelies or to drive over 100 mph.  I found the comments patronizing since I’ve been riding for ten years. I understood that they were just worried about something awful happening to me, but that's part of risk and the thrill of having such a dangerous toy and in a lot of cases one of the main reason those girls even decided that they wanted to go out with me in the first place.  So I would console them and let them know that I knew the motorcycle was dangerous and that it was also one of my most favorite toys and that while sometimes I did push the limits of its operation on public roadways that I would be more careful for them. If a GF told me it’s either the motorcycle or her I’d have to choose the motorcycle. 

If the man you’re dating is too much of a risk taker, why try to change him, let him run off and be a daredevil.  If you can handle his risky behavior great; if not perhaps it’s time to find a new BF.

sweetymary wrote:

xLuLux wrote:

actgirl wrote:

why do men (not saying all) bot care bout how their gf feels when comes to something they want (ie bf wants offroader but gf has worrys)

Ahh Coz Boys Are Strange Creatures Who Think Its Macho To Not Listen To How Ny1 Feels! Sorry Jus A Lil Annoyd Atm!
Wood Love Some Advice .. From Galz N Boys.. Need To Major Get Stf Off My Chest N Fort As No1 Nos Me Here Its The Best Way To Do It... Also Wood Love A Non Biased Opinion!
Can Any One Help Me??
x

i will be happy 2 help ya
and i think kelly leah 2 would like to help u
so whats's goin on?

Thank You!
Well At A Halloween Party I Was At, One My Bessi Mates Bf Kept Tryn To Pul Me Into Rooms N Well You Noo.. Be A tw*t.
I Was Very Wasted But Dint Do Nyfin, N I No He Had Drunk A Bit Bu Im Sure He Wasnt Too Bad.
He Is A Rele Nic Guy Who Dos Nt Come Across To Be Lyk That At All And He Is Rele Crazy Bou His Gf So I Cnt Understnd Why He Was Doin It.
Would Love To No What The Hell He Was Playn At.. It Wasnt Lyk He Wasnt Gettn Ny From His Gf. < (Sori I Was A Lil Blunt But Jus Confusd :S)

Okay, I have kind of a silly question.  Is it possible for a guy and a girl to have a completely mutual friendship, or, say from experience, is there always a bit of sexual attraction?

Just wondering ^_^

tikachu wrote:

Okay, I have kind of a silly question.  Is it possible for a guy and a girl to have a completely mutual friendship, or, say from experience, is there always a bit of sexual attraction?

Just wondering ^_^

Yes to both of your questions. >=]

I have mutual completely platonic friendships with women and some of the friendships are very flirtatious as well.  Just depends on the girl I guesses, but for the most part even with the heavy flirting going on there is no risk of anything but good times and playful innuendo ever happening. I've also had friendships that turned into great dating relationships that eventually led to a romantic relationship. These can be some of the most rewarding relationships, but it's also very upsetting if things don't work out and you go your separate ways (i.e. you lose your GF/BF and your friend).  Sometimes you can be friends again, but only after you're completely over each other.

If a woman tells me she's not interested in anything more than friendship, I pretty much leave it at that, and it usually makes flirting harmless fun for both parties.

Alright, I will trust you guys then haha.  Basically, my boyfriend has two very close girl friends that we hang out with, but I am always just a little bit paranoid that he is attracted to one of the especially.  There have also been some instances in which he has taken inappropriate photos with her (meant as a joke but it was while we were dating so it upset me none-the-less).  Yeah, so I am just a little skeptical and terrified of finding out something has happened and feeling like an idiot for not knowing.  But at the same time, I guess I should trust him and junk.

Haha

Thanks guys!

xLuLux wrote:

sweetymary wrote:

xLuLux wrote:

Ahh Coz Boys Are Strange Creatures Who Think Its Macho To Not Listen To How Ny1 Feels! Sorry Jus A Lil Annoyd Atm!
Wood Love Some Advice .. From Galz N Boys.. Need To Major Get Stf Off My Chest N Fort As No1 Nos Me Here Its The Best Way To Do It... Also Wood Love A Non Biased Opinion!
Can Any One Help Me??
x

i will be happy 2 help ya
and i think kelly leah 2 would like to help u
so whats's goin on?

Thank You!
Well At A Halloween Party I Was At, One My Bessi Mates Bf Kept Tryn To Pul Me Into Rooms N Well You Noo.. Be A tw*t.
I Was Very Wasted But Dint Do Nyfin, N I No He Had Drunk A Bit Bu Im Sure He Wasnt Too Bad.
He Is A Rele Nic Guy Who Dos Nt Come Across To Be Lyk That At All And He Is Rele Crazy Bou His Gf So I Cnt Understnd Why He Was Doin It.
Would Love To No What The Hell He Was Playn At.. It Wasnt Lyk He Wasnt Gettn Ny From His Gf. < (Sori I Was A Lil Blunt But Jus Confusd :S)

Help Me Please

Kellie Leah wrote:

you were looking good, everyone was a a bit drunk, it was probably harmless flirting, but it implies he thinks you're attractive or that he's a man pig that cheats on his GF's with her friends, or it could have meant nothing at all.  i wasn't there so i can't really say one way or the other.

please use proper english in your posts.

KL is right it took me time to understand your message lol
well the thing is the guy was drunk so probably he doesn't remember anything at all...
it didn't mean anything for him... i think... he was just messing around it doesn't make him love his GF less. but it does make him a bad guy with no trust
i don't want u to think that he likes u or whatever... he was just using the fact that he was  drunk...
do u really care about someone acting like that? do u want for u someone like that?
i dont think so 

hope i helped. take care

Last edited by sweetymary (11-17-2008 21:34)

I have a question..What eye color do you prefer, dark or light, brown,hazel, blue,green and etc...??

rano561 wrote:

I have a question..What eye color do you prefer, dark or light, brown,hazel, blue,green and etc...??

doesn't matter.  real answer: I dont' spend much time looking at a girls eyes....

ok

tarani wrote:

vreau si io sa ma joc

govoriti serpski?

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