How Would You Like it to End?

Kellie Leah wrote:

Ha-ha, if you're not into a guy anymore you're not doing him any favors by sticking around.  Show some class and cut that boy that’s not right for you anymore loose.  If you’ve been dating a few weeks to a few months:  Keep it short and sweet, meet in person, somewhere neutral, and just come out and tell him that you don't want to be his girlfriend anymore.  Don’t be wishy-washy about it!  Above all keep it brief, no more than 15-30 minutes, breakups suck as it is; making it long and drawn out (i.e. over a few days, weeks, or months) won't help anyone and will just leave both of you mentally jaded and over the whole relationship turned relationsh*t.

Been dating for a few years? These breakups are messy, but again it’s better to get to the point and not waste either party’s time anymore.  Meet in person, somewhere they can be safe and again keep it brief, no long drawn out explanations of why you don’t want to be with them.  If they’re a weepy mess, hold them until they stop crying and give the poor **** a tissue, but again don’t linger for more than 30-60 minutes it’ll just be worse and you can’t really be the person to comfort him anymore anyway.  If they’re really shaken up over it they’re better off taking some time to compose themselves before you discuss the details of the breakup.  Just make sure they understand that it’s over and that there is nothing they can say or do to make you change your mind, tell them that they need to move on. Give them closure, but never give them hope that you will get back together with them. 

If you’ve only gone out on a few dates and you’re not even in a relationship it’s always a big plus when a woman just tells me she’s not interested in dating me anymore, plus this is a good time to practice letting people down easy and politely.  While most dating veterans understand when they are getting the blow off from someone, it shows a lot of class when a woman tells me she’s no longer interested in dating me anymore. 

If there is this annoying persistent guy that keeps asking you out, but you’re completely not interested, make sure that he knows that no matter how many times he asks you out, you will never ever go out with him.

If he did something very specific that really was key in your decision to break up with him and you absolutely feel the reason to tell me, make sure he understands that it’s something you can’t personally tolerate.  There doesn't even have to be a reason why that’s irrelevant at this point.  Whatever you do don't hash out all the reasons why you're breaking up with him.  Those are your reasons and at this point if he really cared about you he's hurting enough as it is.  And don't ever give him any false hope that you might get back together in the future, that's just cruel.

Man, this should be posted as a FAQ somewhere

I think one of the most important theme in all the scenarios is concreteness, when breaking up you need a definitive conclusion delivered face to face. If its gotten to this point then really any shot at mending is off and as such there really shouldn't be any negotiation

  The other big thing to me is this isn't an argument anymore, its a discussion and really should be handled like adults. Emotions really don;t have a place in the conversation anymore if the relationship has gotten to this point (including them, even if present, just makes the process more difficult)

edited for clarity!

Last edited by Sverra (07-04-2008 17:45)

find him a girlfriend or talk face to face.if he's still bothering well move somewhere else or tell him u will never love him anymore. maybe my ideas are kind of harsh but thats life : (

Ruruka wrote:

What's the best way to break up with a guy?

  get anew one

Ruruka wrote:

What's the best way to break up with a guy?

the same way you would like someone to break up with you.

Ruruka wrote:

What's the best way to break up with a guy?

giving him 300 bimbo dollars ha ha ha ha ha rofl