Why are some women so thin skinned on the internet?

Guernica wrote:

Perhaps it's because some of us are more used to dealing with guys on the internet or in gaming, but I always have a good laugh when I see someone getting their panties in a twist on this board.

http://fiveonenine.com/board/read.php?3,621401,page=1 <- this is pretty tame as far as how some people get treated on the other forum I frequent.

If you can't handle some bad words, quit here.

http://fiveonenine.com/board/read.php?1,701422,page=1 <- Until people start treating you like this for no reason, get the sand out of your vag and either express yourself like an adult or stop feeding the trolls.

Those are pretty good:) Merciless!

I'm glad you took the time to read my post Anang because some people don't bother and then have a good rant about it anyway. I'm not particularly sensitive when it comes to peoples responses but what really makes me angry are those with a severe attitiude problem. Those types argue for the sake of it even when they don't know what their talking about. I'm not sure if women are more sensitive than men when it comes to taking insults, that's a philosophical debate that bores the pants of me. There are others that have a good moan and even act the victim in order to get others banned but I haven't really come across those, I think...
I partially agree with you, however, you seem to refer to the non-argumentative types as "thin skinned" and are asking them to fix themselves. Wouldn't it be easier if people just obeyed the rules on the forum and relied on the knowledge of their "good up-bringing" when posting in forums?

i dont think anyones saying its as bad as in real life, but in a lot of ways its a lot less like being teased for shortness and more like being teased for race/sexuality. in friend groups people dont mind so much but when constant its too much. girls get told not just what they look like and how they should look and the physical/mental disadvantages and differences, but also told how they should act.

if you have been avidly wanting to be treated as one of the guys all your life its extremely frustrating to be singled out and flirted with or given the same old jokes constantly from people you dont even know. of course the key word is joke, but if you ever confront this online you are met with more ridicule and ignored. you talk about how people arent listening to your views because you are female and as a supposedly ironic joke they send you a sexist joke. the thing is, by making this "ironic" joke of them ignoring women, they are actually doing it too.

sometimes you feel very alienated from sites because on one hand they are complaining about women at the same time as showing as many pinups as possible. it kinda makes most middle-ground sites into a lads mag. the worst thing for me is that most witty or news things are gendered towards men. most papers have page 3 whilst we are handed the heat mags. its the same online. you feel you have no right to be interested in something like fark, whilst at the same time the guys are complaining there arent women on the internet. there arent really any neutral sites that stay neutral.

i dont think this is anything like being harassed unless you are being personally attacked but it still tells women what they are allowed to search and says its ok for guys to exploit that.

btw im against people saying stuff generalising men too. whether they mind it or not.

natashaxx wrote:

Anang wrote:

I've seen this from multiple forums that I cruise, and more recently here.  I mean no insult to these women... but it begged the question. 

Harassment from guys on the internet?  Guys are picking on you because you're female... well, guys would pick on you if you were a guy as well... only you don't see that because rather than focus on something else, they focus on the fact that you're female.  No big deal, that's the way most guys on the internet are.  They're rude and think they can get away with saying anything, because most of the time they can... and most of the time it doesn't really bother people, because it's usually all in fun.

Being mean to each other?  Well, some people take rude comments too far, and I'll accept that.  But really... everyone is different and everyone has their own opinion.  Not everyone is going to like what other people have to say.  Being mean for the sake of being mean is one thing, but arguing and disagreeing with other people's opinions... even in a rude manner, isn't anything to be offended by.

Maybe it's because everyone is so use to only being around people who agree with them.  Or maybe it's because some people really are that thin skinned... but just because a bunch of letters on a computer screen are telling you one thing doesn't mean you have to get all emotional about it.  Sure there's a person behind those letters... but it's like taking snapshots of time.  You don't know that person, you don't know what that person is like in real life or what they're going through at the time.  Learn to grow some skin, and if you can't take what people have to say, then don't.  There's a big "X" up in the top right hand corner that gives you that ability.

People should stop learning to be so politically correct... and stop being so polite and just learn to deal with it and respond... or don't respond.  It's your choice.  But it's also the choice of the people writing the posts or the responses to be rude and politically incorrect.  Why should they have to conform to your standards?

This of course doesn't mean that those people should also have free reign to say what ever they want when ever they want to say it... it's just... well, most of the time when people are freely sharing their opinions and thoughts other people get thin skinned and emotional about it.

As long as name calling, threats, lies and writing for the sake of being insulting is left out of it then I agree with what you're saying. Some people love taking things heart and getting all moany about it. Other people (like everyone) has their soft spots and quite rightly get annoyed if it's poked at. Arguments can start off as fun and then spin out of control causing upset. Remember that there are little kids on this site so you should use your judgement when picking the next "playful" fight. Girls will always be a bit bxxxhy but that doesn't mean that putting others down in front of their piers and causing them to feel humiliated is condonable. I've seen people leave this site because the fights have gotten out of control. You don't have to be politcally correct to avoid the obvious tactics of a bully. The way I see it if you get your rocks off by making fun of someone more than you would chatting about interesting subjects then I would have to say that you have a problem.
P.S a person shouldn't have to click the x because a few girls on their favourite site have decided to neglect using their own judgement when playing around with debates.
All I'm saying is that there is no need for insults.

Well said.

I just want to add as well that there is playful rudeness then there is just a continual spew of written vomit that just keeps coming and coming and the grudges never seem to be let go of towards certain people that are targeted. Until it turns into some huge 'in the know' to be continually rude to particular individuals for absolutely NO good reason.
It's unacceptable, especially on a site here where we should be setting a good exapmle for the younger crowd of Bimbos.
The thought of clicking the X button doesn't seem to be a fair option either now does it?
To not be able to go on the forum of a site you like because every post will be mocked in snyde rude off-handed ways is not about being thin skinned it's about not wanting to be a constant victim for people that have no clue how to use their wit towards more constructive means. A strong person doesn't need to pick on others to prove their strength. The real strength that matters most is strength of charactor.
;O) -Caz

Last edited by CazzyJazz (07-30-2008 09:55)

I hate trash talkers and its not only online.

I get this urge to backhand every woman who goes "YOU'RE SUCH A MONSTER!" because I disagree with them. God forbid somebody have an opinion, eh?