Single females - Independent or Lonely?

Blue35bell · 07-03-2008 13:58

Nesje1 wrote:
blue35bell wrote:
Well I've been going out with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now and sometimes I'd rather be single cos I can't figure out if I feel like his friend or girlfriend, he treats me like his gf but I dunno.... I feel more irritable when I'm with him
But you still love him, right?

yeah ofc i do smile

Nesje1 · 07-04-2008 20:38

blue35bell wrote:
Nesje1 wrote:
blue35bell wrote:
Well I've been going out with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now and sometimes I'd rather be single cos I can't figure out if I feel like his friend or girlfriend, he treats me like his gf but I dunno.... I feel more irritable when I'm with him
But you still love him, right?
yeah ofc i do

That's great!!!

I love being single, but I would love to be in a relationship again.
Be one half of something whole.
Sometimes people with a partner take that for granted.

So......enjoy the times he doesn't annoy you wink

KammiKitten · 07-05-2008 06:44

Yep. I have several friends and a sister who all beleive they are incomplete if they do not have a boyfriend (which I actually find sad) and they expect I should feel the same way. I have not met the right guy yet, but I am perfectly happy being single. My friends always want to fix me up with there boyfriends friends so "I won't be lonely". I wish they would just understand I do not think the way they do and that I don't need a boyfriend.

Nesje1 · 07-06-2008 21:36

I often ask myself if it's society (the people around me, tv, etc.) that gives me a bad feeling about being single or is it me? hmm

Kayliman2509 · 07-09-2008 11:43

i dont need a man. my friends are amazing and im always with them. guy just come and go but friends stay forevery. how can i be lonely???

Nesje1 · 07-11-2008 00:26

kayliman2509 wrote:
i dont need a man. my friends are amazing and im always with them. guy just come and go but friends stay forevery. how can i be lonely???

Aren't there things you can't do with your friends that you miss???

Theblackskye · 07-11-2008 07:54

I think it's fun being single.
But i always want a different relationship to my gal pals.
So although it's fun being single.
I reckon i still want more than my brilliant mates.

Prata · 07-11-2008 19:20

I don't think it has to be one way or the other. You can be in a relationship and feel lonelier than if you were single. The same way you can maintain your independence and still divide your life with the one you love.

I had two experiences so far. The first one was condemned from the start and though it was mostly my fault for starting everything in the first place it made me suffer a lot. I never wanted a guy desperately but I think that when I saw that first real opportunity I went ahead. Just to feel something. I'm not sure how to put it. It was a wrong relationship and it left a deep mark. When it was over I was single again and I didn't want another one.
But sometimes things happen for a reason. Suddenly I realized there was someone there helping me out. Silently he was just there. At first I thought it was just a friend because I only knew him from an on line game. 5 months later I was on a train to the north of my country to meet him. Next month will be our first anniversary. I'm deeply in love. And now I know that what I felt before was not love. I feel I want to be with him forever but I don't make any plans.

You don't need to try that hard. When the time is right something will happen. Maybe it will be a boy, maybe something completely different.
We can be happy in many different ways. sourire

Ghettoprinzessin69 · 07-15-2008 03:56

Both.

I love being single because I am free to be with or do whatever I want. Nothing to hold you back. Yes, it is lonely sometimes, but I look at being single as searching for the perfect person for me. It can be lonely along the way, but the end result is what matters. I'm not going to settle for less. bisou

Nesje1 · 07-19-2008 18:42

ghettoprinzessin69 wrote:
Both.

I love being single because I am free to be with or do whatever I want. Nothing to hold you back. Yes, it is lonely sometimes, but I look at being single as searching for the perfect person for me. It can be lonely along the way, but the end result is what matters. I'm not going to settle for less.

My thoughts exactly! sourire
The ignorant people I meet along the way are just little lessons I have to learn fou rire

Kiki1987 · 07-20-2008 04:16

My longest relationship so far is 3 dates! I'm extremely protective of my life how I like it and the second a guy tries to threaten that I get so turned off I can't see them again. I went on a date with a guy just to stop my mum pestering me; he was a student vet at her farm, I think he actually only liked me because he saw me as a mini version of her, which couldn't be farther than the truth! On our one and only date he made a lot of really awkward sexual innuendo and then said something along the lines of, "I love your family... maybe I'll be a part of it soon..." That was the point that I made a hasty excuse and ran. That one certainly put me off men for a while. Sometimes I think it would be really nice to be in a relationship, especially when all my friends are in relationships. My mum is convinced I'm a lesbian or general feminist man hater and will never give her grandchildren. One day I mentioned a guy I used to date to my sister-in-law and she burst into tears - she said she was so happy that I actually dated because she was so worried that I'd never dated anyone and that I was alone! Well, everyone seems to be more concerned with my single status than I am! I'm quite happy to plod along until I find someone nice and not a freak!

Nesje1 · 07-24-2008 08:50

Kiki1987 wrote:
he was a student vet at her farm, I think he actually only liked me because he saw me as a mini version of her, which couldn't be farther than the truth! On our one and only date he made a lot of really awkward sexual innuendo and then said something along the lines of, "I love your family... maybe I'll be a part of it soon..."

Oh my G....!!!!! yikes
I would also be freaked so....NO that's not a freak reaction!
Sjeeessss...just after one date. Get a grip boy! hahahahaha fou rire

Kiki1987 · 07-24-2008 09:29

I know! And he still acts like I broke his heart everytime I see him and he calls my mum about once a fortnight!

Nesje1 · 07-27-2008 09:21

Hhhmmm kind of scary actually lol CREEP!!!

Nesje1 · 08-04-2008 10:01

Well, life isn't getting any easier!
I was asked on a date by this guy a few weeks ago and I said yes.
I gave him my number to set a date and I never heard from him again!!!
I mean........why would you bother to ask me on a date in the first place?????

Kellyfoxe · 08-04-2008 22:50

I think it's wrong that women get pressured in to being in a relationship just because single women make women in relationships uncomfortable.

There's nothing so lonely as being in a relationship with the wrong person and for all the wrong reasons. We're individuals and we all have the freedom to pursue happiness however we see fit as long as no one is harmed.

Frankly, I think single women are viewed as a threat both to their female friends who are in relationship and to social norms.

At the end of the day, you have to live your life for yourself and not for other people. After all, it you who have to deal with the consequences. My advice is this: do your thing! The dogs may bark but your caravan will march on wink

Nesje1 · 08-15-2008 15:53

wow!!!! hein
How did you not know you were in a relationship darkwolf????

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BeautifulCiara · 08-15-2008 16:31

I'm proud to be single and loving it. I'm independent loving my freedom. smile

Sauljuks · 08-21-2008 17:39

I have never had any relaishonship. Most of the time i feel wery good and independent, but sometimes i it makes me feel so lonley.

Minabelle · 08-21-2008 21:04

Single and happy about it 99% of the time. I'm 21 and have never been in a relationship, but I'm very focused on school (I'm a senior in college and will be going on to medical school after this year, hopefully) and a lot of other activities so I don't really think I'd have to the time and emotional wherewithal to invest in a serious relationship. I have enough friends, both male and female, so though I live alone, I'm very rarely lonely.

The other 1% of the time, I'm a little bit bitter. This usually happens when I'm with some of my female friends whose boyfriends are practically attached to them at the hip. I don't want that clingy of a guy, and I'm not a clingy girl, but it's just another reminder that I have no one like that in my life. I went to an all-girls high school, and when I started college and had guy friends again, I was kind of hoping to start a relationship (my school is crazy - like 50% of the people here end up marrying/getting in long-term relationships with other people from the school). In 3+ years, no guy has ever asked me out, and it stings a bit. It's not that I would jump at any date that I got, but it would be nice to know at least that someone's interested in me. But I'm a pretty private person and don't let people get that close to me, so I guess it's mostly my fault anyhow.

Alexis06 · 08-23-2008 01:57

I'm single and very happy being that way. I've only had two relationships, but they both became a struggle and really beat down on my self-esteem. They left me very bitter towards men in general. I don't intend to get involved with anyone anytime in the near or far future, but I guess you never know. But in the end, I like only having to worry about myself and I love my independence. I never miss being in a relationship and I have wonderful friends, so I never feel lonely.

Blitzkreig · 08-24-2008 12:33

my boyfriend of two years just left me two weeks agoi am the lonliest ive been in my entire life. i dont think i will ever be able to trust another man ever again. we went through so much together and i honestly thought he wasnt going anywhere. now im left alone...and i feel like life isnt even worth living anymore, all i want is someone to love me and hug me...but even then i know it wont be the same as when i was with him. im just so sad all the time and i hate myself because i feel like if i hadve just done this or if i didnt do that then he would still be there. when i was with him there were times when i did want to be single...i am young and need some time to myself on occasion, but i love feeling like im being smothers, i love knowing someone loves me that much that they wants to spend every second with me. i just want him back so badly and i dont know what im suposed to do now that im alone. i just sit on the couch and sleep most of the days...and its so hard going to school seeing him and going out seeing him with other girls. and i have some amazing friends... but he was my best friend... so its worse, i feel as though ive lost everything.

Nesje1 · 08-24-2008 20:16

Blitzkreig wrote:
my boyfriend of two years just left me two weeks agoi am the lonliest ive been in my entire life. i dont think i will ever be able to trust another man ever again. we went through so much together and i honestly thought he wasnt going anywhere. now im left alone...and i feel like life isnt even worth living anymore, all i want is someone to love me and hug me...but even then i know it wont be the same as when i was with him. im just so sad all the time and i hate myself because i feel like if i hadve just done this or if i didnt do that then he would still be there. when i was with him there were times when i did want to be single...i am young and need some time to myself on occasion, but i love feeling like im being smothers, i love knowing someone loves me that much that they wants to spend every second with me. i just want him back so badly and i dont know what im suposed to do now that im alone. i just sit on the couch and sleep most of the days...and its so hard going to school seeing him and going out seeing him with other girls. and i have some amazing friends... but he was my best friend... so its worse, i feel as though ive lost everything.

Trust me Blitzkreig, it get's easier!
I know you don't feel like that now but it will!! Just hang in there. And it's ok to feel sad and cry. You'll only be stronger when the feeling passes over! smile

Penguine · 08-24-2008 20:39

i've never had a boyfriend.....or real life friends for that matter
yeh i do feel lonely

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Blitzkreig · 08-25-2008 06:32

Nesje1 wrote:
Blitzkreig wrote:
my boyfriend of two years just left me two weeks agoi am the lonliest ive been in my entire life. i dont think i will ever be able to trust another man ever again. we went through so much together and i honestly thought he wasnt going anywhere. now im left alone...and i feel like life isnt even worth living anymore, all i want is someone to love me and hug me...but even then i know it wont be the same as when i was with him. im just so sad all the time and i hate myself because i feel like if i hadve just done this or if i didnt do that then he would still be there. when i was with him there were times when i did want to be single...i am young and need some time to myself on occasion, but i love feeling like im being smothers, i love knowing someone loves me that much that they wants to spend every second with me. i just want him back so badly and i dont know what im suposed to do now that im alone. i just sit on the couch and sleep most of the days...and its so hard going to school seeing him and going out seeing him with other girls. and i have some amazing friends... but he was my best friend... so its worse, i feel as though ive lost everything.
Trust me Blitzkreig, it get's easier!
I know you don't feel like that now but it will!! Just hang in there. And it's ok to feel sad and cry. You'll only be stronger when the feeling passes over!

somehow i know that and i know its gets better, everyone tells me its just so hard to believe it at the moment...i feel like i want to sleep untill this feeling is gone but its hard because i have school so i cant sleep, ive been skipping school just because i dont want to see him. i cant wait until the day comes where i can smile about being single.

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