New forums - the female body and related issues

i think is a good idea for female to come and chat about relationships.  however, there are girls on here as young as six (so i've read in other threads) so they will be able to read what we post.  so if we personal message each other that would be useful, as its private and you can still get a lot of advice.  but then, won't that run the risk of someone who says on their profile someone who they are not???  god knows who you'd end up telling your most personal secrets and feelings to...

EDUCATED women who make good decisions ON THEIR OWN! {Umai}

You won't believe how many teenagers I have spoken to who are so badly misinformed even with sex education in schools!

My niece told me that the girls were rubbing pee onto their spots to prevent acne! They thought the acid would 'burn off' the pimples... I had to explain to her about the bacteria and other germs too!

I know personally, being a 14 year old girl that talking about sex at a younger age, around 12 and up is fine. Girls around my age have questions even with sex education in schools. The teachers who teach sex education won't anwser all of your questions if they believe they are inappropraite for the class room. But some of those "inappropraite" questions are the ones that need to be addressed the most.

Umai wrote:

this is just my opinion, i don't have any studies to quote or anything....  but i think that sex should be an open topic for girls as young as 13 and 14.  i know we adults find it taboo, but if these young girls have questions, and anonymous forum might be a very convenient outlet.  i'm not saying that ALL 13-year-olds are sexually active, but i WILL say that my step-sister had a "pregnancy scare" at 13, so SOME are.  if you're a teenager and you don't have questions, that's wonderful.  but if you're toying with the idea, perhaps an open communication with your peers and adults would help?

personally, i see no harm exposing younger (teenage) girls to the idea of sex.  again, this is just MY opinion, and i could be wrong, but i believe that ignoring sex and treating it as taboo is one of the reasons teenagers seek it out.  teens have sexual feelings whether we like it or not (this i DO have research for!), and perhaps understanding those feelings may prevent them from doing something they may regret later.  i am all for a CAREFULLY MODERATED sexual forum, and i agree that an age limit should be included.  however, i think the minimum age should be closer to 13, rather than 16, to help some of the girls who may be "on the fence" about sexual activity.

kumari: i think it's great that you found a way to learn about what "being a woman" means despite limits your culture imposes.  i hope you don't mind, but i'd like to point you out as an example of what i would like to see: EDUCATED women who make good decisions ON THEIR OWN!

wonderfully stated umai! (as so many of your posts are) i was sexually active when i was 14 and certainly was not the first of my friends. i will say that i had no idea what i was doing because i had no one i could ask. my parents are hard core catholics - my mother's "sex discussion" with me was "IIIIIIiiiiIIIIIIII  NEVER had sex with anyone but your father, and not until we were married." WHAT? they dated 9 years, did she really think i was that stupid? the answer is yes.

so anyway, the first time i had sex was with a 19 year old MAN that i never should have been with in the first place (my parents didn't know). but i thought it was good to be with someone "experienced" because that's what my friends said. he took me somewhere, no idea where i was, and did not listen when i cried and said no repeatedly. needless to say, it was a terrible experience and i had a twisted understanding of what sex was supposed to be and could be.

looking back, i believe that all could have been avoided if i had access to adults that would have listened non-judgementally and guided me to proper information. i don't agree with abstinence, i do agree with waiting until you know you're ready. i thought i was because i had no idea how to guage if i was or was not. if this forum is limited to 16 year olds, we've done girls a disservice who have been wondering about and considering sex for years.

good idea

i think its a  relly good idea

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