Why, do you think, some women always seem to be so bitter?

yes it all starts inside. one has to realize that a messed up childhood stops being an excusse when your an adult and can decide your own future.

rosiefargo35 wrote:

yes it all starts inside. one has to realize that a messed up childhood stops being an excusse when your an adult and can decide your own future.

here,here.

xxx

that's really sweet rosiefargo35 good on you!

some people just don't know how to react to certain situations.  it could be to do with family or social circles - if you hang out with other people who are bitter, you're probably likely to begin acting the same way, just because it's what you're used to!
Hopefully something good will change their outlook on life though...here's hoping!  it's not worth the energy being bitter, stay smiling!!
x

CazzyJazz wrote:

Patina wrote:

I don't know why some women are so bitter and mean.  Probably cause they don't feel good about themselves or their situation.  Women can also be bitter to other women who they feel threatened by in any way.  It's hard to be nice to someone who's so cranky and negative but i always try.

Same here. It take a LOT to get me angry these days. I just try to always be a voice ov reason. I agree with tha threatened bit too, but then, why wud you ever feel threatened? And why wud you be jealous ov someone you don't know for some reason? I still don't know why sum ladies get like that. It's baffling to me. ;O)      

I don't now why some women get that way, but all I know is I try and avoid them.

Im confused, can you give an example or situation of a bitter woman please?

It can also be caused by the company you keep. Some people only tend to be bitter or abrasive to prove a point or to show others especially if being pressured to do certain things or to be in the "in" group. In my opinion its how they look at life and the way people think. Like for example how their childhood life went and the situations that they are in now. In my opinion the past is the past and you can overcome your past and look at it differently becuz every things happens for some reason. For the situations they are in now are basically what they put themselves into and the decisions that were made prior the situation. But if that is the case then they can stop being so agressive and find a solution to the problem. Seek help or sumting or just get away. Go on a vacation by themselves and have a self check meditate on the problem or do a self evaluation or even just have some fun or relaxation would help in my opinion.

I think its because they hate themselves so they're cranky.

Yes i have recently too but its alll past. Their problem now not mine. I'm over it too flllyyy fa that foolishness *lol*

I think bitterness goes beyond just being cranky.  I think is not being able to experience joy or have a positive outlook.  It's not being able to move past something bad that happened to you, maybe holding a grudge or being unable to forgive.  When you are bitter you can't communicate with others, build new relationships, grow and take constructive criticism, and you can't move on with your life.  It's being angry at the world, CYNICAL, and RESENTFUL.  It's being trapped in the past or feeling victimized and not like an empowered woman.

CazzyJazz wrote:

rosiefargo35 wrote:

i think its all that stuff and also not wanting to let go of the anger... once anger is a habbit its hard to break..

That's prolly tru. It is difficult for me to relate though, cuz I am not like that, ya know? But then I think maybe it has to do with the life experience you've had that makes you nicer, as opposed to bitter and angry. I think if you have seen more hard times and have been taught more life lessons u tend to be more empathetic and approachable and not so abrasive, no matter wut your current stressers are. It is like, those ladies still need to grow and learn to luv themselves more. Becuz as soon as you have respect for yourself, you cna hav more for others right?
     

Actually, I think that the more you've seen of life and the harder the times that you've had, the more bitter you may be. Its easy to be friendly and nice if most of your life has been good, isn't it? If you've been dealt a rough hand in life, i'd say its more likely that you'd be bitter.

In my opinion, having seen more hard times does NOT mean you've learned a lesson in life.
EDIT: Actually, I think that bitterness has nothing to do with what life gives you, but what YOU make of life.

Rosiefargo, if I read what you said about your downssyndrome child (and I appreciate how hard that must be - we have family friends with a son who has mental disabilities) then I think that you with a harder life than I have is probably more positive and thankful for your blessings than I am (who have had a pretty nice life so far, I think).

Last edited by missmm (06-05-2008 04:44)

i think because they can't accept the reality.

why are some women bitter??

Thats a broad question...

Women you 90% of their emotions ...................... Men only use 10-20% give or take....

So that right there tells you for one we use wayy more of our emotions than males do... It's whats socially acceptable...

I got bitter after i lost my baby - and after i had my heart broken... (( We aren't upset and bitter for no reason.. we ALL have our reasons...))

You know, us women - we deal with a lot and some of us - just some of us don't like to talk to other people about our problems and/or gossip with people cause we're over that - and thats when we bottle up all our emotions - thats when we get bitter.

[But thats for everyone - you bottle up your feelings you're gonna get bitter and/or explode]


Everyone battles their own field every day -

theres a million reasons why [anyone] will get bitter and some dont....