Boys, questions for the girls?

Something I'm rather curious about: they say that nobody starts a meaningful relationship with someone they meet in a bar.  Is this piece of conventional wisdom true?  If so, what sorts of places do you go if you want to meet guys who are "relationship material"?

SpoiledDivaPrincess wrote:

Something I'm rather curious about: they say that nobody starts a meaningful relationship with someone they meet in a bar.  Is this piece of conventional wisdom true?  If so, what sorts of places do you go if you want to meet guys who are "relationship material"?

It's not always true, though it seems to be uncommon. Personally, I wouldn't look for a "relationship material" guy at a bar. But that's because I can't be sure what kind of guys are at the bar. I'd be more interested in guys who share my geeky interests. So an RPG interest group, or a video game tournament, or a sci fi convention might be better bets for the sort of guy I'd be looking for, were I looking. I met my current boyfriend at our university gaming club. A lot of serious relationships came out of that club, so it's not too unusual.

Of course I'm not saying that. I'm just saying if I were looking, the bar would not be where I'd start.

SpoiledDivaPrincess wrote:

Something I'm rather curious about: they say that nobody starts a meaningful relationship with someone they meet in a bar.  Is this piece of conventional wisdom true?  If so, what sorts of places do you go if you want to meet guys who are "relationship material"?

I don't go to places to look for guys.
But if I find one in a bar, don't see why he wouldn't be "relationship material".

I think any guy can be "relationship material", no matter where you meet him.

I met my significant other at the bar where I bartended. Although, I must admit, I dated a lot of people that I met while working and he's the only one who has worked out. We've been together for 8 years.

darkgin wrote:

i have a Question put will think of more 

ill start with a basic one


why do girls not like guys with Gin hair

ill admit i got tease alot when younger for my hair colour i found every girl i liked didnt like me because of my hair

that means them shallow right?

now im older i find alot girls like ginger hair
or my personatly

so my question is

why do gilrs look aopen a ginger haired guy and basicly see them as horrible,ugly?

I don't think they do. I *have* noticed that a lot of younger people (boys and girls alike) will go out of their way to find something to tease everyone about. In your case, since red hair's so uncommon, it was an easy target. And, unfortunately, many younger girls are shallow enough to intentionally avoid the kid who gets picked on.

Now, when I was in high school, I hated a particular red-haired guy, but that was because I viewed him as an academic rival. And also because *my* friends teased me saying that he had a crush on me and such. So, nothing to do with his hair. Besides, I secretly had a crush on him, too.

Also, you say that you're finding more girls now who like your hair? So why are you still wondering whether red hair immediately equates to being ugly?

KirstD wrote:

darkgin wrote:

i have a Question put will think of more 

ill start with a basic one


why do girls not like guys with Gin hair

ill admit i got tease alot when younger for my hair colour i found every girl i liked didnt like me because of my hair

that means them shallow right?

now im older i find alot girls like ginger hair
or my personatly

so my question is

why do gilrs look aopen a ginger haired guy and basicly see them as horrible,ugly?

ironicly enough i had the same problem when i was a kid ive got the red hair too and the boys would call me fire head and what not but now that im older guy love it... when your'e a kid everyone is unsure of themselves and looking for someone to make fun of

yeah  everyone wants a peace of a red head    were toooooooooo hot to handle haha

As to the first question, I think part of the issue with meeting people in bars/clubs is the reason behind going in the first place. Obviously I can't speak for all women, but I know that when I went to bars and clubs, I was going to hang out with my friends and dance. I didn't even want to be approached by a guy.  This was probably because I thought guys going to bars and clubs were there to pick up girls, which was a turnoff for me and a little creepy.  And yes, I tried to dress as sexy as possible, so I know this was sending mixed signals to the poor guys!  So I think part of the problem is the perception each sex has of why the other is where they are.  That being said, if you can get face time with the girl on another day (if she gave you her number), then you probably have a shot at a developing something more.  thats just my two cents!

darkgin wrote:

i have a Question put will think of more 

ill start with a basic one


why do girls not like guys with Gin hair

ill admit i got tease alot when younger for my hair colour i found every girl i liked didnt like me because of my hair

that means them shallow right?

now im older i find alot girls like ginger hair
or my personatly

so my question is

why do gilrs look aopen a ginger haired guy and basicly see them as horrible,ugly?

Aw, I think red haired guys are cute! What kind of girl would say, "Sorry, I don't want to date you because of your hair?" Sounds like there are other things at work there, love.

personal prefrence

Nybia wrote:

SpoiledDivaPrincess wrote:

Something I'm rather curious about: they say that nobody starts a meaningful relationship with someone they meet in a bar.  Is this piece of conventional wisdom true?  If so, what sorts of places do you go if you want to meet guys who are "relationship material"?

I met my boyfriend at a club in hollywood. I don't think it is common to meet a relationship material guy at a club or bar because usually all they seem to be after is sex. I think people say we shouldn't go looking in places like a bar, funeral or a family reunion is because that is where people are more likely to find people who are weird and/or completely incompatible.

I can see where you are coming from in saying that meeting somewhere in a club or a bar, it means that they are generally looking for sex, but some aren't. Some may want a committed relationship and in order to seek the girl to do this, they look in social places such as these. I would use this method.

As for the question about ginger-haired people: It depends on personal taste really. I. myself don't see why others dislike people with ginger hair :S I see it as interesting and different to other people, dont you?