Do you also hate when husband/another person does like this?

My ex always did that.  Well, more along the lines of he would ask my opinion and then ignore it for his own ideas.  Even my pictures were hung where he wanted rather than where I did. >.X  Finally, I ended up rearranging the living room on my own when he wasn't around.  And of course, it made more sense than what he had done, which he realized when he saw it.

Ugh, life is so much easier living on my own.  My way actually means something, because I get to have it.  I'm in no hurry to let someone else decide their way is better for me.

Sorry to say, I can't relate.

My husband doesn't make any big purchases without asking me first and the other way around.  Anything to do with the house/furniture is completely up to me.  We decide together IF we're going to make a purchase for the house, save for it, and I pick it out.  Normally he doesn't care, but if he doesn't like my choice, then I pick something else.

Your situation sounds like it sucks.  When two people live together and share money and expenses then any non day to day purchase should be a joint agreement.

Cryzilla wrote:

My ex always did that.  Well, more along the lines of he would ask my opinion and then ignore it for his own ideas.  Even my pictures were hung where he wanted rather than where I did. >.X  Finally, I ended up rearranging the living room on my own when he wasn't around.  And of course, it made more sense than what he had done, which he realized when he saw it.

Ugh, SENSE, why do men have none?! My bf always thinks his way is best just for no reason other than it's His Way. Then I *explain* mine and (luckily) he tends to realise that mine uses logic and reason and COMMON SENSE. But he never learns for next time

Oh yeah my bf also makes ridiculous purchases while we are worrying about money. He just forgets to prioritise I think - another place he lacks sense. Like 2 months ago we were still looking for a place to live, not sure what our rent would be, and had a long list of things to buy like an oven, washing machine, various bits of furniture, bikes - none of them cheap and all of them adding up. He just glanced at the £2000 or whatever in his account that he had been carefully saving up and decided to buy a new laptop! Though we already have 1 laptop (admittedly on the blink) and 3 desktop PCs between us.

I tried so hard to be supportive "Yes your laptop is very old you totally need a new one" but I don't know WHAT went through his head to think it was the MOST important thing when we were in fact about to become homeless if we couldn't find a flat and afford a deposit for it.

THANKFULLY his credit card company rejected the request for payment! I have never been so overjoyed at a technical error. He came to his senses and decided to cancel the order. We have managed to buy a washing machine and an oven for less than the price of the laptop and they are about fifty times more useful I swear. If I still had to walk to the launderette and pay €6 for a wash and dry because of the laptop thing I would be one constant Marge Simpson style "hmmmmmmmmm" noise.

My husband has been doing this lately. He bought all this computer crap and a desk. He's going to give me his old computer which I don't mind, but I don't like his old desk!! He went and rearranged the whole living room just to fit the new desk and the TV he WAS planning on using as a computer monitor once his computer is complete. He says we can afford it now, but I'm paranoid.

I think that you should talk to him and that you have to make decisions about your home together and that he ask you do you like those stuff he's buying