so it's kinda long but i'll try and sum up the highlights. i'm bisexual and in a polyamorus relationship (it means having more than one significant other). i lucked out and met this really great guy who told me he was poly with his girlfriend. he told me she was thins gorgeous amazing person and we'd all be happy together. she's said rude and abusive comments to me before i even knew her and was trying to establish a trusting relationship. i don't know if it was health problems or stress with work or school but i grew up with an abusive father and refuse to put myself through another abusive relationship. other than thinking my bf is putting up with more abuse and manipulation than is "normal" for a relationship (everyone fights and everyone lies from time to time) things are great between me and him. i have no respect, trust, sympathy, or relationship with this girl Nikki (the other gf) at all. it's been almost 6 months and she's talked to me twice and fought with our bf almost every day over everything... i know he loves her and is "waiting for the old nikki to come back" but i've been in abusive/manipulative relationships before and people don't change they just hide who they truely are until they have you "trapped".

i don't know what to do about this. i'm angry with my bf for not just calling her a bitch and telling her he's not going to put up with her shit anymore. and i'm beyond pissed at how she's been picking fights with him almost everyday, tried cheating on him (but they're working through it), has made no effort to form a relationship with me, and how she can be so rude and hurtful and expect everything to be ok because "he loves me and you can't do anything about it or he'll leave you like every other man in your life has"... any help?

Amy881 wrote:

Im sorry PolePrincess, I cant think of anything that could help... I just hope your bf comes to his senses and walks away from that bitch

thanks me too...

i have boy trouble

Amy881 wrote:

Here's a problem I'm having lately... my bf has been pretty much ignoring me for like a week an a half now. He doesnt answer his phone when i call and has only replied to my texts like twice and blew me off when i tried to get him to come over on the weekend. I didnt think anything was terribly wrong between us before and i dont see how he could be thinking ive been smothering him or anything since we usually only talk like 2-3 times a week and see each other once or maybe twice a week. thats not alot i think? Im getting really paranoid he's about to dump me or is cheating or something... i didnt want to like be all bitchy and stuff about it but he hasnt responded more than like one or two word replies to my more carefuly worded messages so i think i may have to go bitch-mode on his ass just to get him to actually talk to me! that isnt right! Dam im getting mad thinking about it... i dont know how its going to turn out, he better have a dam good reason for avoiding me...

Well i got my answer back on friday... he broke up with me...


he was just trying to think of how to do it he said. he said he was just bored of being together and that it'd be better for both of us to just move on... i thought we were happy the whole time! he seemed to enjoy spending time with me or so i thought...

i dont know how to feel.. over the weekend ive been angry and sad and angry some more. I'm prety much stuck on angry at this point. I want to say good ridence to the asshole but dammit i cant help but miss him!

I just 'broke' up with a guy I was texting, I knew him from a game and we were 'dating' he was taking it pretty serious but I felt bad every day because I knew he lived the other side of the world and yeah it wouldn't work out anyways.. I haven't had any response yet but i'm really worried what his reaction would be and hopefully my facebook won't be spammed with hate messages o.o

I have boy problems!!!!!! I guess every girl has this problem once in her life!!! I'm like totally hung up on this guy i was going out with about a year ago and i really cant stop thinking about him! It's crazy like! I just want to break free from thinking about him and make a clean start!! Any one have any advice on how to do that??????

Amy881 wrote:

sleapyhead wrote:

^There's plenty of other great guys out there. If he got bored then in reality it was never going to work out. Take some time to reflect on your feelings and then go and date around a bit. You will miss it when you're old and married. I'm 25 and not married, but I already feel like I'm old and married. Have fun, be young.

Its funny you say that, there was a couple days back there when i just felt like sleeping with all his friends as if that would somehow get back at him... i think i just wanted to feel like someone might still be interested in me but these days im just keeping my head down an not thinking about dating for a bit. its nice to not have to worry about him or anything but it is a but lonely...

Haha that would certainly be sweet revenge, but I don't think it would make you feel any better. The weird thing about being single is that not too many guys (unless they're manwhores) go out of their comfort zone to ask a girl out even if they think she's cute. Guys hate rejection just as much as we do. So you'll definitely go through some periods where you feel undesirable. I was single all through college, but I dated guys off and on (some repeatedly), and it wasn't until I absolutely wasn't looking at all that I met my current boyfriend. I was just trying to be happy with being myself.

If you still want to feel like someone is always interested... I would join a free, but still reputable online dating service. You'll probably get so much attention you will begin to hate it! Lol, that's how I felt on one even though that's where I met my bf. But he wasn't like the rest... we would troll the site together and just happened to be from the same city.

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miss jayde a kiss wrote:

hey,im jayde and this is my boy trouble:
well when i start liking a guy i get nervous to talk to him
and well.....i start to doubt myself
im feeling like im gonna be alone foreva
i feel like i dont even belong to be alive
and i listen to wat people say which,makes me feel worst!
i dont know what to do i feel like im
the most unatracttive girl on earth!!
ive had heartbreaks before.....
and my other problem is tomorrow is....
VALENTINES DAY!!! I STILL DONT HAVE A CRUSH!
I NEED TO ACT FAST!!!
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! PLEASE GIVE TIPS -peace!

It's more than natural to feel nervous when talking to someone who you like, we all feel that.
It is highly unlikely you will be alone forever, and if your profile age of 9 is the truth then you shouldn't even be bothering about this at the moment. You have got years until not having a partner should become a concern. And I'm sure you are not the most unattractive girl on earth - beauty is not only skin deep, it extends to your brain, your sense of humour, your personality.

Urgh, and that, right there, is why I hate Valentine's day. You do not need to have a crush on Valentine's day. In fact, why not use Valentine's day to show your appreciation to your friends and family? Me and my group of female friends all sent cards to each other this year as a sign of our love for each other.

If you are really 9, please please please go and play with toys and stuff, enjoy your childhood whilst you've still got it! Trust me, by the time you get to my age, you'll start wishing you could go back to childhood.

My boy don't tok to me...but it's ok i like the peace )

Ahh, here goes ...

I'm in love with someone who doesn't love me back (common problem) he isn't the type to 'fall in love' as he's had sex with half the girls in the country and is a major prick. But we've been mates since I was 8 and he's always been there for me if anyone was being horrible to me.

He told me he loved me at one point and we tried getting together but it didn't work out cus it was too weird, going from friends to a relationship and there was cheating ... we broke up but now I'm in love with HIM and I can't get him out of my head. Even if he has a girlfriend he'll come onto me and I know he's just using me (hes a massive cheater) but I'm so stupid I just go along with it cus he makes my insides turn to jelly

I know it's really stupid to fall in love with a guy who's like that but I suppose you can't help who you fall in love with

never really told anyone this haha! please help?

well me and this boy have been really close friends for like 4 years. he really does mean alot to me. we've always been friends though never anything else,but sometimes it feels as though we have a flirt,but i dunno if im imaging it? i see all these girls that he goes out with and they are gorgeous! i would always be the same person,the person that he loves as a bestfriend, but ive started to find myself trying to go the extra mile to try and look better,almost like these girls. ive always made an effort in my apperance, but im trying harder to make him notice. i dunno if i have low self esteem,ive always been quite shy,but i just dunno what to do..i want him to notice! he means the world to me honestly,but it feels as though he means more to me than i mean to him. i dunno if i should stop dreaming and just move on and still be amazing friends, just me not having a silly 'crush' on him? am i over exagerating an being stupid?! please help guys, im so confussed:(! thanks<3xoxox

alovose wrote:

About 4 months ago my ex broke up with me after he came back from a trip, because he started dating another girl there (yeah, it was just reaaaaally great). Obviously I was really, really sad, and I had just started to talk again to my first ever boyfriend (we "dated" when we were 13). He had also been dumped by his current girlfriend, so we were kinda 'helping' each other. Then he invited me to his graduation party, we drank a little bit too much and somehow ended back together. At the time I did get quite happy about it, and it was great that I was finally forgetting my ex. But the thing is, now that we're together for 3 months, I realize that I don't really like him that way. He's a great friend, but that's all. But he seems to be deeply in love with me. I tried being cold and not talking much to him, but just for one single moment I 'go back to normal' he seems to get so, so happy again. I can't continue this but I don't want to hurt him either. What should I do?

Why don't you just tell him how you feel and hope for the best, ofcourse it hurts. But wasting time in a relationship is just that-wasted time. Time that could be spent looking for and meeting the person who's destined to be your perfect match.