Well... I like this guy. He is nice, and totally cute (in my opinion) We have a lot in common and I know he likes me. I reallllllly like him too. The thing is.. My friends dont like him. My friends are extremly superficail and think hes a nerd. I completly dissagree. Hes nice and cute.He so funny to be around. They dont like him though. I really want to go out with him... but I dont want (this is going to sound shallow) I dont want my friends to see me as a nerd because they didnt like the guy I was going out with. My friends mean a lot to me. uggh. Any advice?

He gets a free housekeeper out of you and has the temerity to complain that you haven't been doing enough? SERIOUSLY?

What, are you to shower him with champagne and foot massages? Acrobatic sex and fluffing his stupid pillows before going to bed?

He has the cash, he has the means, you don't.

That he complains when you do do what you do shows rank blindness. He's taking your efforts for granted. Completely.

hmm...ok, i get the point. i did leave some things out. first of all, i was like jumping around when he finally asked me himself. second, i kept flirting with him over and over.

I'll try to explain my problem as best as I can. Forgive me if my English gets a bit confused... at this point even in my own language I would sound confused.
I have a boyfriend. We've been together for more than 2 years. We have a long distant relationship. Except for holidays, I'm with him about a week every month. I'm ok with that.
I trust him completely and when we are together it's amazing.
But... about 2 months ago he started working for the first time. I new we couldn't text all the time like we used too and that I would miss him terribly. But I never thought it would hurt so much. About a month after that, I got in touch with an internet friend I haven't talked for a few months (I never met him personally). We get along fine and he "knows" my boyfriend too. He started to talk to me everyday and making me company. I didn't feel so alone any more, and before I knew it I was thinking about what it would be like being with him, because he might be the opposite of my boyfriend in some things. He says what he is feeling, if I make him happy, or if he thinks I'm beautiful in some picture and that sort of things. He is romantic in a girl kind of way, if you know what I mean. He wants things I want but never thought a guy would want. And then he told me he was in love with me.
I went to see my boyfriend, with all this questions and thinking about another guy. But when I got there... I realize I truly love my boyfriend. He doesn't always say I'm beautiful or that he loves me everyday, but when he does I feel the happiest woman in the world. He is not the most romantic and sensible man on earth but I do love all the sweet things he does. So I made my choice and told him I need to go out more as a couple and do those things I miss with him. He understood all too well, I think even that there was somebody else in the picture but he didn't ask me about it. I told my friend that and we "broke up". He said goodbye because it was everything or nothing.
I went back home, and no friend to keep me company for 2 days. Then he text me with the lyrics "Lost in you". We starting talking again... I missed him and I was stupid I guess. Now I have the same problem again, only worse. He says he loves me and can´t imagine his life without talking with me any more. If I let myself thing I do want to be with him and live that kind of situations I've never lived before. But the thought of leaving my boyfriend... I can't. It's impossible.
Obviously cheating is out of the question, but I feel like I'm cheating already. Just by feeling this way and talking with him I feel I'm cheating my boyfriend.

I need you to tell me what you honestly think please. I know I can't leave my boyfriend, so this is not a "what should I do" situation but at the same time it is. How do I forget all those things I want, but my boyfriend can't give me? Maybe I just like my friend because he makes me feel loved? I needed to talk about this to someone and I remember you guys, even though I hadn't been in the forum for a while.
Sorry if I wrote too much... :S Thank you for reading.

I know he had previous relationships but I don't know any details about them.
I know he fell in love with another girl who had a boyfriend too before me, but it didn't work out for obvious reasons. That makes me feel even worse actually... like I'm making him suffer the same thing again.

I guess I never thought of it that way because me and my boyfriend "know" him for so long. I just accepted that something happened that we weren't expecting.

I just have to get some courage and say I can't give him anything more than my friendship. He'll probably disappear but that's understandable...

I understand what you're saying. It's just hard to see him like that... :S
Maybe I'm too naive but I never thought of it that way.

Yes I really need to finish this before something worse happens.
Thank you for your listening to me Loderi. I really needed that. ^^

ashlann wrote:

i need some help.. here is my problem a bot that used to like me asked out my best friend, and i'm ok with that i don't like him in any way, anyways my other friend told me that he told her that the only reson why he is going out with my best friend to get to me and i asked him and he said no. i know he's telling the truth but how do i get the other people to think so too?

you don't
maybe you should discourage gossip, but people are entitled to think what they like. When they talk about it with you, without getting excited or upset, just put across your point of view.
eventually the gossip will die. and you shouldn't be concerned

i have this one guy friend that i tell everything too!!!!he's like a gay guy friend but he's not gay. anyway he asked me out recently and i told him i considered him a friend and for the next couple of days things werent the same. but then i started talking to him because i wanted him to be my friend again. anyway now we talk but he's been clingy to me lately. i can admit me and my friends are weird and im okay with that buth with him...
anyway i like this one guy sooooo much in my art class and when one day he talks to me my guy friend stars mocking him and being rude then has the addocity (did i spell that right?) to put his head on my shoulder and cuddle on me. we usually do that but not in that way. anyway the guy i liked left and i wanted to cry. what should i do?!?!?!
help!!!!!!!!!!!

Tell him to lay off, you're not interested in him that way. Be blunt. He has to hear it to understand. That's the only thing you can do.

SexyAlice wrote:

Summya, you beat me to it! D:

It's okay, you get a novelty monster that eats noobs for getting there second.

thanks this really helps!!!!!
hopefully i can confront them on monday

I just wanna rant, my ex boyfriend is trying to make my life a living hell! He is alienating who I thought were my friends so that they'll hate me, and he's trying to make it worse by saying he has...inappropriate pictures of me (and I don't!) I laugh at his attempts but its frustrating that this "revenge" thing is happening to me AGAIN! He broke up with me because "I didn't give him enough attention" now see here, I spent most of my time with him. He got angry because he'd refuse to do ANYTHING even if I suggest a billion things, and then I'd do something else because I couldn't get him to speak or ANYTHING. He'd even say he wasn't getting attention if I was talking to a friend I hadn't seen in awhile, for just 10 minutes! Probably less!

Okay, done ranting. Sorry. xD uhm I'll stick a question to this one. Yes I hate my ex boyfriend with a passion. I don't want to be in contact with him and I don't want to sit here being bothered and fearing all these different things. I have a new boyfriend now, and I don't wanna ruin that relationship with my ranting. I need to put my mind at ease *whew!*