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no

no reason for it, I'm just very picky

No But my ex husband did it enough for everyone here

I would never cheat  I have my honey pie Bry he is the light of my existance i adore this lil old bald country boy

he treats me like a princess and i have never loved like this before

cheating no for I would not only hurt him but i would it kill myself and him and what we share

Last edited by Marilee143 (03-13-2010 19:52)

I've never had a boyfriend. But if I had, I wouldn't.

Nope, I feel guys who sneak around and cheat are wimps or they truly are not in love with the person cause if they were how could they chance hurting that person.

Now that said I am also single, ha ha.

I been told by married guys I'm the type of guy who the wive shoots while he sleeping, LOL

But then I been told "I am a very nice guy" much more often.

Really thou, if you love and care for the other person, how could you take a chance on hurting them?

Now open relationships were you know each other might see somebody else is different. I been in those relationships and maybe sadly am OK with them. I think you can still be "in love" but it seems those relationships don't last for years....more like months

No, I have never cheated on my husband. We have been together for 22 years. I can't say the same for him though. He has been caught in some pretty hairy situations through out the years.

I've never cheated. And also I've never been the one others cheat with knowingly. It has happened where I'll be talking to a guy and getting flirty and romantic and then I find out they have a boyfriend, but I put a stop to that as soon as I can.

I really don't see the point in cheating. I know it hurts me to be cheated on, so logically to me I'd never inflict that pain on someone I love or even just care for.

Though I would consider being in an open relationship. I've never been in one so I can't say with 100% that I'd be okay with it but I wouldn't mind giving it a try. *shrug*

ETA: I think both genders cheat equally.

Last edited by AceofSpades (03-13-2010 21:22)

LifeStealer wrote:

my boyfriend cheated on me...several times...i wanted to to do the same thing...pay back.But i couldn't i'm not that type of person...it hurts so much and i'm disappointed and feeling like an idiot...i want to break up with him but it's hard because we've been together for 4 years and a half...don't know what to do

Aww that is horrible of your boyfriend. I know how you feel with the revenge thing, but don't do it.. i doubt he would feel anything if you did, and you would, because as you said.. youre not that type of person. Plus it isnt actually achieving anything and it would only make you as bad as him. Wow, four years.. that is a long time, but if he is treating you like this maybe it is the best thing to do.. do you not know how to do it? *hugs*

kay I will be the first one to admit it.

to give context:
i was with my ex for four years. i had only ever had sex with him.
i left my ex to be with my current bf
as soon as word got out that i split from my ex, i discovered i was rather...sought after by a few guys i knew
one of them took me out for drinks. I had been with my new bf for 1 month at this point. i had fancied this other guy for about eight years. having just got out of that long relationship with my first boy, i have to admit i was curious to see what else was out there.
Anyway I don't actually regret it. I could still be wondering about that guy now otherwise. The actual sex was rubbish (we were too drunk) but I think the experience was good for me.
I have been with my bf for three years now. He doesn't know about what happened back then. Maybe he has an idea about it. I have probably given stuff away when I've been drunk before. I'm guessing he would rather not know. It doesn't change how I feel about him now of course.
To be honest I wouldn't mind a relationship where we could both cheat if we wanted every now and then. As long as no lasting affairs developed I guess. I do not think my bf would like this at all though. Weirdly (to me) he has had absolutely zero interest in other girls since we got together. I have had crushes on about 10 guys apart from him in the same time. What I guess I'm saying is, I would cheat again, as long as I knew it wouldn't hurt him. Obviously, that risk is pretty high, so I try to keep it together

LifeStealer wrote:

I just want to know why are people cheating...

There's no one answer to this question. I think with teens the reason would be lack of commitment and experimentation. Most teens aren't really serious in their relationships and have them just to have them. This makes cheating more likely -- emotionally OR physically.

As for adults, I'd say the number one reason for cheating would obviously be unhappiness and not being fulfilled. Married couples become too comfortable, lose that spark, feel stuck, trapped, unhappy, bored, etc. There's also an obvious lack of communication. We can blame the other person in our relationship for making us unhappy, but what are WE doing about it to change the situation? Are we talking about how we feel or are we just living day by day hoping something will change? Are we taking an active part in working on the marriage or are we just living like roommates?

My brother recently cheated on his wife. It could have been prevented YEARS ago if they just had open communication with each other once things started to get stale. And yes, problems can literally start years before the actual event of cheating occurs.

I think cheating would occur way less often if people just knew how to have healthy communication, healthy boundaries, and the skills needed to work on a marriage. Love really IS NOT enough in relationships. It's hard work, but if you really want the person in your life, then you should find the time to do it.

Hmmm.


When i first got together with one boyfriend, i made out with another guy because i was unsure of where our relationship was going (he lived in another state before we got seriously serious)

So if that doesn't count then no. I haven't cheated

i cheated on a boyfriend with an exboyfriend

but then that relationship ended really badly (not due to the cheating i never told him) and i never spoke to him again. however i'm still really close to the first ex and we're still in contact.
go figure   

If they both know about it and are there, is it cheating?